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Whn it comes to attraction to the other sex, I go for decency, and physical beauty and charm. Yet I seem to be regarded as shallow, by people who judge more on intellect and job status. Isn't that wrong?
Reply 1
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everyone has personal tastes. somethings are more important to others.
although if you would only go out with some one stunning regardless of other qualities then you may be considered shallow.
but people judging on job status? gold diggers?
although if you would only go out with some one stunning regardless of other qualities then you may be considered shallow.
but people judging on job status? gold diggers?
Reply 2
If you're a boy, it's shallow. If you're a girl it's perfectly acceptable. Hey....I don't make the rules...
It just depends if you actually care or not what ppl think
It just depends if you actually care or not what ppl think
Reply 3
Well this woman tried to allude that I was having 'empty relationships'-I judge on decency, sincerity and physical attractiveness, but don't care much about intellect.
Reply 4
Who cares? Seriously. If that's what you're attracted to then it's what you're attracted to. If you don't want people judging you then don't describe your dating criteria to them.
Reply 5
or status
Reply 6
What?? How come people are judging you??? I verily dislike people of high intellect and status - I got for pretty people too. Everyone does. People criticising you are just jealous.
Reply 7
I don't really see the problem.
You go for pretty people.
Consequently they think you're shallow.
If their definition of shallow includes going for physical appearance over intellect then they think you're shallow. You presumably view being shallow as something different. Why do you care? I'd just ignore them in your position. Personally I think you do sound as if you prefer qualities that are generally considered superficial and so you are somewhat 'shallow', although I wouldn't use the word as it's quite judgemental. Everyone likes different things. You could just as easily accuse others of having no standards or being blind.
You go for pretty people.
Consequently they think you're shallow.
If their definition of shallow includes going for physical appearance over intellect then they think you're shallow. You presumably view being shallow as something different. Why do you care? I'd just ignore them in your position. Personally I think you do sound as if you prefer qualities that are generally considered superficial and so you are somewhat 'shallow', although I wouldn't use the word as it's quite judgemental. Everyone likes different things. You could just as easily accuse others of having no standards or being blind.
Reply 8
Well I go for sincerity and decency, that isn't shallow, by concession to shallowness is going for the sensual, the beautiful. I would say that going for intellect or status rather than morality of a person is very shallow though.
Reply 9
'my' concession, sorry
Reply 10
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Anonymous
Whn it comes to attraction to the other sex, I go for decency, and physical beauty and charm. Yet I seem to be regarded as shallow, by people who judge more on intellect and job status. Isn't that wrong?
Hunni-bunni-pudding&pie I think that judging on intellect is perfectly acceptable.
Job Status is less so... but then, if you want to live a life of luxury then why shouldn't you look for job status?
Reply 11
Why is that going out with someone because of their intelligence is less shallow than for their looks. Both are things you are born with and can only change to a degree....whats the difference?
I'd even go as far as to say its LESS shallow to go for looks over intelligence....good looks suggest good genes, which we are attracted to by nature for evolution purposes (not worded well but I'm sure you get my drift). Up to a point, intelligence is superficial in the sense that it doesn't really say anything about the person's personality or mating potential.
Don't be ashamed of only going for good looking girls. Less attractive ones will tell you you're shallow but you're really not....its just the natural order of things.
I'd even go as far as to say its LESS shallow to go for looks over intelligence....good looks suggest good genes, which we are attracted to by nature for evolution purposes (not worded well but I'm sure you get my drift). Up to a point, intelligence is superficial in the sense that it doesn't really say anything about the person's personality or mating potential.
Don't be ashamed of only going for good looking girls. Less attractive ones will tell you you're shallow but you're really not....its just the natural order of things.
Reply 12
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isnt that fact you made this thread kind of ironic?
Reply 13
Anonymous
Whn it comes to attraction to the other sex, I go for decency, and physical beauty and charm.
There's nothing wrong with that, you're not being shallow.
Reply 14
Anonymous
Whn it comes to attraction to the other sex, I go for decency, and physical beauty and charm. Yet I seem to be regarded as shallow, by people who judge more on intellect and job status. Isn't that wrong?
Nope you're entitled to go for something different. What pleases one person may not please another. Charm and decency is really important. A lot of intellectuals are stuck up bastards. Looks, charm and decency are important for me too.
They can't tell you what to like and going for job statuses (especially if looks don't matter) sounds like gold digging and you can't get shallower than that.
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