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    So I and some friends in question were planning on a day away.
    Or should I say they were. I said that I didn’t want to make plans as I didn’t know where I would be financially when they were to go away to an event.

    They seemed ok with this and didn’t push it further but continued talking about it while I was present. Then fast forward a few months and I have made plans to go with another friend to the same event now that I am financially able. When I told them they seemed fine with it as I am planning on going with my mother too (she’s there mainly for transport but is also coming with us).
    However fast forward again one of the group has decided to take it upon herself to criticise my decisions. She sees it unfair as I supposedly agreed to go with them in the first place but I did not.
    Which doesn’t make sense as she was the one who was ok with me going with the other person.

    She often targets me and places me in a difficult position. Even when I defend myself to her and the group she doesn’t back down and I feel attacked. Other than these incidents we get on quite well and I can confide in her but once again I am questioning our friendship.
    The rest of the group stick by the specific girl because I think they are scared to lose the friendships in question. So they do not question anything she says.
    Do I stick with the group even though she’s in it or leave them completely?
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    (Original post by ninjasayshi)
    So I and some friends in question were planning on a day away.
    Or should I say they were. I said that I didn’t want to make plans as I didn’t know where I would be financially when they were to go away to an event.

    They seemed ok with this and didn’t push it further but continued talking about it while I was present. Then fast forward a few months and I have made plans to go with another friend to the same event now that I am financially able. When I told them they seemed fine with it as I am planning on going with my mother too (she’s there mainly for transport but is also coming with us).
    However fast forward again one of the group has decided to take it upon herself to criticise my decisions. She sees it unfair as I supposedly agreed to go with them in the first place but I did not.
    Which doesn’t make sense as she was the one who was ok with me going with the other person.

    She often targets me and places me in a difficult position. Even when I defend myself to her and the group she doesn’t back down and I feel attacked. Other than these incidents we get on quite well and I can confide in her but once again I am questioning our friendship.
    The rest of the group stick by the specific girl because I think they are scared to lose the friendships in question. So they do not question anything she says.
    Do I stick with the group even though she’s in it or leave them completely?
    Either you just continue to hang out with the rest of the group(without that girl), or what I would advice you, leave them completely if sticking with the group means you will have to deal with her and her complaints.They say:"Anything that bothers you..stay away from it".
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    Any friendship that causes more stress than enjoyment should be immediately cut in my opinion.
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    You don't need to cut the group if you like the majority, just be passive around that one and then ***** about her when she's not there to see if the rest of the group share her views on the subject or not
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    (Original post by napa_16)
    Either you just continue to hang out with the rest of the group(without that girl), or what I would advice you, leave them completely if sticking with the group means you will have to deal with her and her complaints.They say:"Anything that bothers you..stay away from it".
    There isn't an option of hanging with them with out her, she's with one of them and they don't separate it's either take them all or not at all :/
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    (Original post by Toby007)
    You don't need to cut the group if you like the majority, just be passive around that one and then ***** about her when she's not there to see if the rest of the group share her views on the subject or not
    I've mentioned her to the rest but they keep their mouths shut. It's almost as if the don't want to get in an argument with her or they are scared of her.
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    just avoid them all then?
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    (Original post by MoonRocket)
    just avoid them all then?
    I'm guessing that's what I'm going to have to do there isn't any other way I can see round it :/
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    Update here- received a horrifying message from them so im now proceeding to ignore them and eventually cut them out of my life.
 
 
 
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