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    So I and some friends in question were planning on a day away.
    Or should I say they were. I said that I didn’t want to make plans as I didn’t know where I would be financially when they were to go away to an event.

    They seemed ok with this and didn’t push it further but continued talking about it while I was present. Then fast forward a few months and I have made plans to go with another friend to the same event now that I am financially able. When I told them they seemed fine with it as I am planning on going with my mother too (she’s there mainly for transport but is also coming with us).
    However fast forward again one of the group has decided to take it upon herself to criticise my decisions. She sees it unfair as I supposedly agreed to go with them in the first place but I did not.
    Which doesn’t make sense as she was the one who was ok with me going with the other person.

    She often targets me and places me in a difficult position. Even when I defend myself to her and the group she doesn’t back down and I feel attacked. Other than these incidents we get on quite well and I can confide in her but once again I am questioning our friendship.
    The rest of the group stick by the specific girl because I think they are scared to lose the friendships in question. So they do not question anything she says.
    Do I stick with the group even though she’s in it or leave them completely?
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    (Original post by ninjasayshi)
    So I and some friends in question were planning on a day away.
    Or should I say they were. I said that I didn’t want to make plans as I didn’t know where I would be financially when they were to go away to an event.

    They seemed ok with this and didn’t push it further but continued talking about it while I was present. Then fast forward a few months and I have made plans to go with another friend to the same event now that I am financially able. When I told them they seemed fine with it as I am planning on going with my mother too (she’s there mainly for transport but is also coming with us).
    However fast forward again one of the group has decided to take it upon herself to criticise my decisions. She sees it unfair as I supposedly agreed to go with them in the first place but I did not.
    Which doesn’t make sense as she was the one who was ok with me going with the other person.

    She often targets me and places me in a difficult position. Even when I defend myself to her and the group she doesn’t back down and I feel attacked. Other than these incidents we get on quite well and I can confide in her but once again I am questioning our friendship.
    The rest of the group stick by the specific girl because I think they are scared to lose the friendships in question. So they do not question anything she says.
    Do I stick with the group even though she’s in it or leave them completely?

    Cut ties with her, what you did was right and she has no right to criticise you on something that you wanted to do. If she's a true friend she would move on and understand that it isn't about her and that, not everyone is financially able and most events are better with family. Just be grateful that she's showing you her true side now. You deserve better friend not ones that acts like an enemy
 
 
 
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