Her ex is playing games..with me

My friend broke up with her boyfriend of 6months shortly before xmas. I was caught in the middle, trying to console her, but not wanting to hate her ex for no reason (their break up was a mtual thing)

Over the months, my friend has constantly changed her opnions, from wanting him back, to hating him, and wanting him again. Everyone has tried to show her she needs to move on. So finally she seems to have moved on, as atm she hates him.

As a sideline, I have been with my boyfriend for 4months now and love him so so much. He means the world to me and I want to be with him for a long time in the future.

But then there's the problem of the ex. He's constantly flirting with me, telling me how gorgeous I am, and that he'd jump into bed with me anytime. When my friend was with him, we had a joke that he'd have us both. But it feels like he just can't stop there.

He knows I have a boyfriend, that he's the one for me, and he knows I couldn't go out with a friend's ex. Thats just my principle. But he's making me feel uneasy.

It shouldn't be a major problem, as I don't meet up with him, we don't go to the same uni, I have no contact, and I want it to stay that way. I justr feel so guilty talking to him, even as a friend. Because I know he'll go onto flirting.

This isn't one sided though. Because the way I am with him is such that I'll perhaps let his imagination develop, but not actually saying I'd ever do anything with him :s-smilie:

I don't know what to do. Do you think he really wants me, or is he just playing games? And do you think i should talk to my boyfriend...he knows nothing about him at the moment.

Reply 1

decoy

I'd just stop talking to this guy.

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

And also..should I tell my friend about him? :s-smilie:

Reply 3

Ginger_Rogers

You double posted, and the first wasn't anon. Change it quick.

Reply 4

makeshiftwings

Are you sure it isn't a revenge tactic? This guy sounds like a complete and total loser.

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

Ginger_Rogers

You double posted, and the first wasn't anon. Change it quick.

thanks

Reply 6

shauny

Just stop talking to him then if the flirting makes you uncomfortable. :smile:

makeshiftwings

Are you sure it isn't a revenge tactic? This guy sounds like a complete and total loser.

I don't know how the hell you work that out.

..shauny

Reply 7

Angel_Cake

Anonymous

But then there's the problem of the ex. He's constantly flirting with me, telling me how gorgeous I am, and that he'd jump into bed with me anytime. When my friend was with him, we had a joke that he'd have us both. But it feels like he just can't stop there.

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It shouldn't be a major problem, as I don't meet up with him, we don't go to the same uni, I have no contact, and I want it to stay that way. I justr feel so guilty talking to him, even as a friend. Because I know he'll go onto flirting.

So how do you flirt with him? Online/phone/text? If so, it should be fairly easy to ignore him. It seems like you're a little attracted to this guy actually, or else you would have just stopped talking to him a long time ago...be careful there. I say just cut him off completely.