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    Context: If a girl called "Emily" marries a person called "James" and they stay together for 3 years and then they divorce from each other due to James finding out that he wants kids of his own and can't due to Emily's 'problems' and marries another girl called person "Chloe". If Emily later on remarries to a person called "Chris" and they stay together for 5-6 years and Chris decides he wants to have kids but realises he can't due to Emily problems, is it right that he leaves Emily aswell or?

    ^ This is with the knowledge that Emily doesn't want to disclose her 'problems' in fear of what happened in her previous relationship again?

    To spice things up, if Chris parents argue with him over his relationship with Emily telling him to break up with her and remarry to someone else because Emily have their grandchildren, should he? Do you think parents have a right/input or are allowed any judgments in your relationship? :erm:


    Q) Do you think its right to leave her? :hmmmm2:
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    Chris and James sound like awful people
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    If your union is not blessed with offspring that is no reason to end it.
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    If having kids is important why would you get married without discussing it first?

    If "Emily" had been told that kids were important and outright lied about the problem then obviously there is no problem divorcing her, as the marriage was obtained on false pretences.
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    None of parents business.
    To the partner who splits up with her, then it's his right and he obviously feels he loves the idea of having kids more than he loves the person who he is with. brutal but true.
    To Emily, then she should have learned the first time its an important factor, so should have thought about disclosing the information earlu on. keeping it a secret for too long is foolish imo because it will come out eventually. I'd suggest at the time you know he wants kids and you want something more permanent. Oy will come out sooner or later. Not every man wnats kids or is that bothered, so a bit foolish to waste years into someone who obviously does.

    They could explore other things like adoption.
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    Surely "Chris" and "James" should know what they are getting themselves into, before marrying "Emily".

    "Emily" should have been honest with her "problem" in the beginning, before the relationship progressed into marriage.

    IMO, everyone is at fault.


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    (Original post by Blondie987)
    Chris and James sound like awful people
    How does that make them "awful people"?






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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Context: If a girl called "Emily" marries a person called "James" and they stay together for 3 years and then they divorce from each other due to James finding out that he wants kids of his own and can't due to Emily's 'problems' and marries another girl called person "Chloe". If Emily later on remarries to a person called "Chris" and they stay together for 5-6 years and Chris decides he wants to have kids but realises he can't due to Emily problems, is it right that he leaves Emily aswell or?

    ^ This is with the knowledge that Emily doesn't want to disclose her 'problems' in fear of what happened in her previous relationship again?

    To spice things up, if Chris parents argue with him over his relationship with Emily telling him to break up with her and remarry to someone else because Emily have their grandchildren, should he? Do you think parents have a right/input or are allowed any judgments in your relationship? :erm:


    Q) Do you think its right to leave her? :hmmmm2:
    Why didn't they discuss this prior to getting married? Emily should have said that she can't have children. I don't know if I would personally leave my partner for that reason but I do understand why you would
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    It's a perfectly valid reason, women who can't have children are essentially genetic failures, like going out with a guy with no balls.
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    Are adoption, surrogacy or other artificial means of reproduction not options?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Context: If a girl called "Emily" marries a person called "James" and they stay together for 3 years and then they divorce from each other due to James finding out that he wants kids of his own and can't due to Emily's 'problems' and marries another girl called person "Chloe". If Emily later on remarries to a person called "Chris" and they stay together for 5-6 years and Chris decides he wants to have kids but realises he can't due to Emily problems, is it right that he leaves Emily aswell or?

    ^ This is with the knowledge that Emily doesn't want to disclose her 'problems' in fear of what happened in her previous relationship again?

    To spice things up, if Chris parents argue with him over his relationship with Emily telling him to break up with her and remarry to someone else because Emily have their grandchildren, should he? Do you think parents have a right/input or are allowed any judgments in your relationship? :erm:


    Q) Do you think its right to leave her? :hmmmm2:
    Its not right and its not wrong

    If he cant be happy in a relationship without kids, then its right to leave
    If he can be happy in a relationship without kids, then its right to stay

    Its got nothing to do with his parents, what is he 14? They need to remove their crusty ass selfish thoughts from the equation
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Context: If a girl called "Emily" marries a person called "James" and they stay together for 3 years and then they divorce from each other due to James finding out that he wants kids of his own and can't due to Emily's 'problems' and marries another girl called person "Chloe". If Emily later on remarries to a person called "Chris" and they stay together for 5-6 years and Chris decides he wants to have kids but realises he can't due to Emily problems, is it right that he leaves Emily aswell or?

    ^ This is with the knowledge that Emily doesn't want to disclose her 'problems' in fear of what happened in her previous relationship again?

    To spice things up, if Chris parents argue with him over his relationship with Emily telling him to break up with her and remarry to someone else because Emily have their grandchildren, should he? Do you think parents have a right/input or are allowed any judgments in your relationship? :erm:


    Q) Do you think its right to leave her? :hmmmm2:


    My head hurts.
 
 
 
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