I'm a het 19yo female. I have a great boyfriend who I've been dating for a year now and have sex with regularly. I orgasm every time I masturbate but I've never been able to *** from sex.
We all know girls find it harder to orgasm from sex. I'm not here for tips, just wanted to hear your stories. Girls - how long did it take you to be able to *** from sex? How did it happen? Guys - does it make you anxious when your girl can't ***? Have you ever made someone *** (from sex) for the first time?
Even more interesting: non het. girls - is this issue as prominent in lesbian sex?
Let's talk female orgasm. watch
- Thread Starter
- 14-05-2016 11:31
- Community Assistant
- 14-05-2016 11:54
Some female partners have been able to come during intercourse - usually by grinding against my pubic bone or using their fingers to masturbate - and some never have. Provided they are enjoying themselves I don't care either way.
I know plenty of bi / lesbian women and it's much the same: penetration alone is enough for some but not for most.
- 14-05-2016 16:52
Never orgasmed from someone else doing ANYTHING, don't know if it's the way I do it myself or if I'm nervous. Oh well, I don't mind, I'm happy with my sex life.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
- 14-05-2016 19:19
Never orgasmed from someone else doing ANYTHING, don't know if it's the way I do it myself or if I'm nervous.
Oh well, I don't mind, I'm happy with my sex life.
- 14-05-2016 19:44
- 14-05-2016 20:00
In my, sadly relatively limited, experience the crucial area does get the right kind or long enough action (at least with my skill level) to get there. But complementary activity and a bit of taking turns works out ok generally.
- 16-05-2016 12:47
I can't orgasm just from sex, unless I'm on top. Otherwise nothing does it for me. Oral and stuff I can, but it's pretty normal to not be able to orgasm from sex for a female.
Sometimes my boyfriend would get frustrated that I couldn't orgasm, but sometimes it just wasn't happening.
- 17-05-2016 11:56
I think my ex made me orgasm twice in the entire 1 year 4 months we were together, and never during sex. So disappointing
- 18-05-2016 06:26
haha , I'm also 19 and never had an orgasm during sex and not even from oral ,only if I masturbate . My boyfriend is also amazing and he always want to make me feel good, the sex is great but I guess that some girls can't reach an orgasm with partner.
Ther's a thing I read about, that orgasms at young women is pretty rare and usually a women knows how achieve an orgasm at 25-30. I guess this is just a thing that women has to learn it.
- 18-05-2016 06:57
I only *** through my clit and it usually needs like a vibrator along with the penetration.
I believe it has a lot to do with the mind, like when I was younger I couldn't even *** through my clit when a guy was inside me because I couldn't concentrate.
You really need to hone in what really turns you on and focus on that. Also finding a guy you don't care about impressing helps lol.
- 25-05-2016 17:45
seriously where the **** is the g spot and how the hell do you orgasm from it?
- 25-05-2016 21:29
I've never ever come during sex. I nearly got there once when my bf was going down on me but he got tired hahahaha.
It's completely normal, just make sure that you're open and commutative.
I faked it with my ex a few times and got so deep in the lies that I 'had' (felt obligated to - believe it or not I have a big conscience) to do it every time - I felt so so so guilty and when I finally told him it practically broke us up. Do not do that.
- 26-05-2016 22:13
Ageing helps ( sorry )
I was 2 years into a relationship before my partner gave me an orgasm. Plenty of foreplay, take your time, and slow arousal helps. Don't rush into it.... You have all the time in the world!
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- 27-05-2016 18:52
- 27-05-2016 22:42
I've come from oral a handful of times - less than 10 in all the years I've been sexually active. I've never come from fingering or sex. I enjoy it and I feel pleasure, but orgasm just doesn't happen. When I masturbate I can get myself off repeatedly very quickly but never with a partner. I got into the habit of faking from my very first sexual experience so it's probably psychological.
- 01-06-2016 12:40
I orgasm 90% of the time during sexual penetration - usually with me on top, but certain positions and time of the month work with him on top.
- 05-06-2016 00:14
i haven't had sex yet but have given and received oral and never once orgasmed from it, i don't masturbate often but when i do i do orgasm. My ex who i did oral with was alway asking me if had orgasmed and i felt like i had to lie to make him happy or he would come back onto me and try again which just never worked and i never really enjoyed. But what i'm most nervous about is when i do have sex (with my current boyfriend) how do i tell him i haven't orgasmed if he asks? will he be upset? will he ask?
- 11-06-2016 22:24
I never have cummed except with one person out of many sexual partners. Some girls find it harder but I found it worked when the sex was amazing and there was a strong emotional connection I was proper into it.