Sober sex really bothers me for some reason. It annoys me and seems unnecessary. I used to have sober sex just to make him happy, because he's heterosexual/straight. I only ever half heartedly enjoyed sex but had sex because it brought him joy and I was doing it for him. We've been together two years now. Though not to long ago we had to separate for 8 months because I had to leave university for a while. During this time I had developed a lack of interest in sex as a whole. When I was away from him I guess I went though a self discovery and I realized I never really enjoyed sex even if it was just to make him happy and now I no longer feel desire for sex. Except maybe occasionally but nothing I wish to act on.
I do feel willing to have sex but only when I'm/ we're drunk. When I'm drunk sex does not bother me. Two days ago we had sex for the first time in over 5-6 months the last time we had sex we were also drunk.
I don't know what to do because I know my lack of interest in sex hurts him. Makes him feel unloved and unwanted. But it has nothing to do with him. He asked the next night we were sober if I wanted sex again but I think he knew the answer "no". The idea was uncomfortable.
I'm about 99% asexual because I can only have sex when I'm drunk watch
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- 15-05-2016 09:48
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- 15-05-2016 09:59
If you believe you are asexual you should speak to your boyfriend about it
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- 15-05-2016 19:56
Yep, it's talking time.
Is there intimate stuff you do enjoy?
- 15-05-2016 20:27
Maybe you are just ashamed of yourself and that's why you cannot be intimate