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    Okay, so its coming up to the end of my first year at the University of Leicester, and after all this time I can only say that there are people that I know, and I have maybe 2 or 3 friends. I've tried joining societies with similar interests but I haven't been able to connect with anyone, and since this was really important to me when starting uni it's causing me a lot of stress and it's hard to focus on an already difficult course. To make matters worse it feels like my flatmates are constantly going out with their different groups and I've tried to make friends with them but always end up feeling like an outsider (like I'm more of an afterthought or just tolerated or that any effort I make to socialise is completely one-sided) despite knowing them for the same amount of time. I've been open to clubbing and house parties despite not being particularly interested in them myself and by the end of the night I'm usually wishing that I stayed home. I've really pushed myself out of my comfort zone this year and been open and friendly to everyone I've met even though I'm usually introverted and social awkward, so I don't know what I'm doing wrong. I'd really appreciate some advice on this, because I've had trouble making good friends in London as well.
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    Okay, so its coming up to the end of my first year at the University of Leicester, and after all this time I can only say that there are people that I know, and I have maybe 2 or 3 friends. I've tried joining societies with similar interests but I haven't been able to connect with anyone, and since this was really important to me when starting uni it's causing me a lot of stress and it's hard to focus on an already difficult course. To make matters worse it feels like my flatmates are constantly going out with their different groups and I've tried to make friends with them but always end up feeling like an outsider (like I'm more of an afterthought or just tolerated or that any effort I make to socialise is completely one-sided) despite knowing them for the same amount of time. I've been open to clubbing and house parties despite not being particularly interested in them myself and by the end of the night I'm usually wishing that I stayed home. I've really pushed myself out of my comfort zone this year and been open and friendly to everyone I've met even though I'm usually introverted and social awkward, so I don't know what I'm doing wrong. I'd really appreciate some advice on this, because I've had trouble making good friends in London as well.
    I think you should not try too hard to fit it to something that you would not enjoy. To be honest I wouldn't be bothered about those people too much. Sometimes it's better to be alone and be yourself than have milion friends and be completely fake. In your situation I would just focus on study and wait until you meet someone with same interests. You are probably just special and no one around you is like that, so they chose to be boring like everyone else and do things like everyone else is doing because there is nothing special about them they just follow same stereotypes of being a student. Anyway don't worry too much. Remember sometimes it's worth to wait than chasing something that could potentially be a disaster? Good things will come to people who wait. I assume you are still very young. Trust me your life didn't begin yet. Wait until you finish your uni.
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    What are your interests?

    I'm in pretty much the same boat, it's why I joined tsr. I can't find anyone who is head over heels in love with the quantum world irl. It's really hard having to make small talk while being bored out of my skull, I'm sure you know the feeling.
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    What are your interests?

    I'm in pretty much the same boat, it's why I joined tsr. I can't find anyone who is head over heels in love with the quantum world irl. It's really hard having to make small talk while being bored out of my skull, I'm sure you know the feeling.
    I'm definately in love with quantum mechanics and the quantum world. I''m only doing GCSE physics but after watching documentaries on Quantum mechanics and the EPR paradox and particle entanglement and all of that stuff, I've just felt like I want to know more....
    I've always loved astronomy, It's such a shame my school doesn't do it for GCSE as I know quite a few schools who do :/

    Sorry, I just randomly started talking about my unusual love about Quantum Mechanics...weird ik as I'm not even A level yet...oh well
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    (Original post by Peroxidation)
    What are your interests?

    I'm in pretty much the same boat, it's why I joined tsr. I can't find anyone who is head over heels in love with the quantum world irl. It's really hard having to make small talk while being bored out of my skull, I'm sure you know the feeling.
    I'm into a lot of alternative punk rock music, dc and marvel movies and shows, adventure books, drawing, writing, learning new things about science and art, video games, being outside, staying in and hanging with friends. Honestly I'd try most things once, and I can have a conversation about almost anything, I'm just not a fan of going out every single night and dancing to music I don't like.

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    I think you should not try too hard to fit it to something that you would not enjoy. To be honest I wouldn't be bothered about those people too much. Sometimes it's better to be alone and be yourself than have milion friends and be completely fake. In your situation I would just focus on study and wait until you meet someone with same interests. You are probably just special and no one around you is like that, so they chose to be boring like everyone else and do things like everyone else is doing because there is nothing special about them they just follow same stereotypes of being a student. Anyway don't worry too much. Remember sometimes it's worth to wait than chasing something that could potentially be a disaster? Good things will come to people who wait. I assume you are still very young. Trust me your life didn't begin yet. Wait until you finish your uni.
    The thing is it was easier not to be bothered in the winter but now it's summer and people are hanging out outside and I feel like people just see me as the weird antisocial flatmate when I've tried to be anything but. And this has been the same attitude I've had since primary school, like it'll be better when i get to secondary school/college/university. And I feel like I'm running out of time because after university there isn't really a place to make good friends.
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    (Original post by Peroxidation)
    What are your interests?

    I'm in pretty much the same boat, it's why I joined tsr. I can't find anyone who is head over heels in love with the quantum world irl. It's really hard having to make small talk while being bored out of my skull, I'm sure you know the feeling.
    I'd vote to leave as well.....if I could
 
 
 
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