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    Hi all. I doubt this constitutes an everyday issue, but this seemed like the most appropriate place.

    The plot:
    Haven't been getting along with my parents, particularly my step-dad. I refused to mow the lawn every week because I thought that was silly. In response, he's changed the password on the Wifi (cracked it), barred me from eating any meals they prepare (not a problem), and told me to wash my own clothes separately. The last one is tricky. I'm not allowed to use the washing machine (when I'm home alone, he's found a way to disconnect it beyond my clever) and he's not giving me the money to go to a launderette's. I can probably ask my neighbours to wash a load, but then he'd talk to them. I'd have to use a friend's then - don't have many that are local, but could probably get somewhere.

    Emotionally, I'm not too bad, because I've been through a lot worse - much of that with them - and I'm at a point of numb, idga****ness. But it's hard to keep spirited.

    I dropped out of school to pursue an apprenticeship and do my A levels privately. I'm at the final stages of one application process, and I've applied to a number of others. Right now I'm unemployed and ineligible for JSA until out of school for 20 weeks.

    I'm aware that I could leave home without consent - this is what my brother did at 17. He was taken into foster care until the council gave him a flat.

    I'm pretty sure I want to leave home, and before 18 when my prospects of getting help from the council are bleaker. Even if I cave in and agree to mow the lawn once a week, which I've considered, I'm really not happy here and I can guarantee it'll only get worse. I want to have my life in my own hands as soon as possible. This sounds so spoilt, but there is history that might make you think otherwise.

    My options as I see them:
    1) Stay at home in the short term and apply for council housing. I'd involve the social services. I've asked my parents already to tell the social services that they'll kick me out in a month's time, but they've refused. I can definitely antagonise them enough by constantly swearing or something, lol.
    2) Run away. I've lost contact with most of my friends and don't have any that would realistically let me stay around for a matter of months. I do have a couple of adult friends who I could ask, but the local authority is obligated to provide me emergency housing. I'd be taken into foster care like my brother until a flat is available (I think).

    Thanks for any and all comments, advice.
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    (Original post by Protesin)
    Hi all. I doubt this constitutes an everyday issue, but this seemed like the most appropriate place.

    The plot:
    Haven't been getting along with my parents, particularly my step-dad. I refused to mow the lawn every week because I thought that was silly. In response, he's changed the password on the Wifi (cracked it), barred me from eating any meals they prepare (not a problem), and told me to wash my own clothes separately. The last one is tricky. I'm not allowed to use the washing machine (when I'm home alone, he's found a way to disconnect it beyond my clever) and he's not giving me the money to go to a launderette's. I can probably ask my neighbours to wash a load, but then he'd talk to them. I'd have to use a friend's then - don't have many that are local, but could probably get somewhere.

    Emotionally, I'm not too bad, because I've been through a lot worse - much of that with them - and I'm at a point of numb, idga****ness. But it's hard to keep spirited.

    I dropped out of school to pursue an apprenticeship and do my A levels privately. I'm at the final stages of one application process, and I've applied to a number of others. Right now I'm unemployed and ineligible for JSA until out of school for 20 weeks.

    I'm aware that I could leave home without consent - this is what my brother did at 17. He was taken into foster care until the council gave him a flat.

    I'm pretty sure I want to leave home, and before 18 when my prospects of getting help from the council are bleaker. Even if I cave in and agree to mow the lawn once a week, which I've considered, I'm really not happy here and I can guarantee it'll only get worse. I want to have my life in my own hands as soon as possible. This sounds so spoilt, but there is history that might make you think otherwise.

    My options as I see them:
    1) Stay at home in the short term and apply for council housing. I'd involve the social services. I've asked my parents already to tell the social services that they'll kick me out in a month's time, but they've refused. I can definitely antagonise them enough by constantly swearing or something, lol.
    2) Run away. I've lost contact with most of my friends and don't have any that would realistically let me stay around for a matter of months. I do have a couple of adult friends who I could ask, but the local authority is obligated to provide me emergency housing. I'd be taken into foster care like my brother until a flat is available (I think).

    Thanks for any and all comments, advice.
    I think your best bet is to call social services for advice, they should easily be able to tell you what support you would be eligible for.
 
 
 
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