muslim guys and non muslim girls

Young unmarried couples may decide to use Nikahu’l-Mut‘ah as an allowable alternative to Zina. Thus in practice they engage in something very similar to western relations (that is, there is the potential of permanent marriage), but it differs in that there is a specified time as to how long the relationship is to last, with the possibility to prolong that period.

hey

i've started going on dates with this guy who is a muslim. he's kind of strict in that he doesn't drink, he prays and fasts and only eats halal food. i'm a christian.

i know i shouldn't think too far, but honestly there is no point taking things further if they're not gonna happen later on, ie marriage/possible conversion etc.

so i'm wondering about:
1) what do most muslim guys who are this strict think about sex before marriage?
2) are muslim guys allowed to marry non muslim girls? (his mum converted to Islam when she married his dad) - i asked him if he could marry non muslim girls and he was like yeah i can marry anyone...but i dunno if he was just saying that because u don't wanna put off a potential, i dunno, ...that's why i'm thinking is he just using me? what are his motives?!

any help would be appreciated!

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I thought it says you can marry "people of the book" if they're chaste only, and the wife has to agree for the kids to be muslim? Not sure on this.

TomTom to be fair she said, there's no point in taking things further if she would have to convert to marry.

what my motive is? what do u mean?

and my view is that i would not convert, which is why there may be a potential problem.

Nikāḥu’l-Mut‘ah is a temporary marriage within Shi'a Islamic tradition.

fat_hobbit - "free-mixing" is an area of much debate.

To the OP - it's hard to gauge motive from your post but I'd give him the benefit of the doubt. You talk about conversion - how much do you know about Islam? It worries me if you'd consider it for the sake of a relationship/marriage.

Yeah sure.

Being a muslim though, it is definently something that is frowned upon; it makes sense - no other religion make so much effort to seggregate men and women e.g. by making women wear the hijab, having single sex schools and so on.

Obviously guys and gals are allowed to interact when it comes to business, but thats it. Got this from google:

http://www.lutonmuslims.co.uk/freemixing.htm

When we consider all of the laws governing the relationship between men and women in Islam, it is clear that Islam forbids any mixing between the sexes that might provide even the remotest possibility of temptation. Scholars of Islam throughout history have fully appreciated this fact. We can see it evidenced in the writings of the great jurists:

Imam Al-Sarakhsî writes: “The judge should try women separately from men since people tend to crowd together in the courtroom. It is quite obvious that the mixing together of men and women under such crowded conditions is conducive to temptation and other distasteful consequences.” [al-Mabsût (16/80)]

Imam Al-Nawawî also writes: “Ibn al-Mundhir and others maintain that it is a matter of unanimous agreement that women are not obligated to attend the Jumu`ah prayers. However, his argument that this is because it brings about the mixing of women and men is not correct. The attendance of women at the Jumu`ah prayers does not necessarily bring about such mixing since the women stay behind the men.” [al-Majmû` (4/350)]

Al-Nawawî further explains: “One of the vilest innovations, that some ignorant people today are involved in, is the habit of lighting candles on Mount `Arafah on the ninth night. This behavior is gravely misguided and is full of improper goings-on such as the mixing of men and women.” [al-Majmû`: (8/140)]

I respect your views completely but Muslims such as Rani Kabbani challenges the view that "women are made to wear the hijab". She stresses modesty.

As for fornication according to the Shariah being punishible by stoning to death. This is not true. That's adultery. Fornication is not punishable by death. Though lashing is sometimes used. However both of these are very rarely ever done.