Boyfriend told me to commit suicide

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Get the **** out of there, and fast, sounds like a bit of a fruitcake to me. Not supporting you through this isn't the kind of thing a b/f should do, he should be there for you, a shoulder to cry on.

Can't you go back to your parents house or nan/grandads? Just to get away..

Reply 2

OP

I could live with my mum. But something inside me doesn't want me to leave him. I'm so f-ing stupid :frown:

He is a mixture of nice and mean. Like he flits between the two. Just last week he booked a very expensive holiday for us, and you dont do that lightly. It was even before he got his promotion.

Now THIS :frown:

I wasn't even having a go at him. I was distressed. I dont understand :frown:

Reply 3

fais

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Were these your finals?

Before I and I'd imagine many others dismiss him as a giant tool, there might be a deeper issue at play here; perhaps he does have a personality disorder in which case you might want to be supportive and suggest seeking help when he's his usual self. Has he ever become violent?

Can you not crash at your parents/relatives/friends' house? It's never a good thing to be totally dependent on anything/anyone.

If this is just how he is though, you may want to reevaluate where you both stand and how you feel the relationship is going and where it's heading.

hth,

fais

Reply 4

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What you wanna do is weigh up his good and bad points, and if his bad points out weigh those of the good points, then you should really think of getting out of there, and ending it. Holiday is all well and good, but not a substitute for the ****tyness and telling you to 'commit suicide'.

Reply 5

Get the **** out of there, and fast

YES I agree with Andrew, just get out the house, with the bad news of your degree and your unsupportive b/f can you not just ring a close friend and ask if you can crash there tonight so you can have a break.

Reply 6

OP

fais

Were these your finals?

Before I and I'd imagine many others dismiss him as a giant tool, there might be a deeper issue at play here; perhaps he does have a personality disorder in which case you might want to be supportive and suggest seeking help when he's his usual self. Has he ever become violent?

Can you not crash at your parents/relatives/friends' house? It's never a good thing to be totally dependent on anything/anyone.

If this is just how he is though, you may want to reevaluate where you both stand and how you feel the relationship is going and where it's heading.

hth,

fais

Hi. Thanks for your input.

As I said above. He is docile most of the time. Usually very quiet and pleasant. But as soon as there is drama he turns so NASTY. Like no one I have ever met before. Even if the drama has nothing to do with him (as was the case here). I wouldn't even say the things he says to my worst enemy! :frown:

Reply 7

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greenturtle

YES I agree with Andrew, just get out the house, with the bad news of your degree and your unsupportive b/f can you not just ring a close friend and ask if you can crash there tonight so you can have a break.

It's 2.30am and I have no local friends (I moved to the area to be with my boyfriend when HE asked me to)

Reply 8

Hmm not much you can really do as you also said :s-smilie:

, just close yourself from him tonight

e.g sleep in a different room or just go to bed without saying anything and see what the situation is like in the morning and if his attitude hasn't improved you will just need to have a serious conversation about your relationship.

Reply 9

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What do you think he will do if you tell him you want out?

Would he go mad? if so, you should get a family member, or really good friend from back home to be there, if you decide to leave, incase he doesn't take it so well!?

Reply 10

OP

I want to know why he said such a thing to me, when I needed him most :frown:

If it is because he hates me, WHY does he still have me living here? And WHY did he ask me to move in in the first place??

:frown:

Reply 11

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maybe because he knew you wouldn't say no to moving in with him?!

Not sure why he would say such a thing, but it's 210% wrong on all accounts.

Reply 12

Was he like this when you first met, or has it got worse through out time?

Reply 13

OP

But why ask me to move in if he secretly wants me to die? :frown:

Can you see any sense in that?? Am I missing something? :confused:

greenturtle he has got worse over time. He was deffo NOT like this when I moved in.

Reply 14

Jono310

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Anonymous

My boyfriend just carried on playing online poker...

Had he just lost alot of money? its no excuse, but it may have tipped him oer the edge.

All i know is, i could never tell anyone i love to commit suicide, so you have to wonder, does he really love you?

i agree with the other posters you need to get out of there ASAP in my opinion!

J

Reply 15

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Jono310

Had he just lost alot of money?

he only gambles very small amounts like £5. And he's pretty good at it.

He's just gone to bed now. He kissed me on the head as if nothing had happened!! :eek:

WTF?

And now he leaves me to sit here alone wondering what the hell is going on :frown:

Reply 16

Ok well if he has got worse then you seriously need to talk to him but sleep on it and talk to him tomorow but like I said try and separate yourself from him tonight.

Reply 17

OK didn't see this new post WTF!!

That is SERIOUSLY strange, he hadn't been drinking and are you sure there's nothing going on at home thats just making his head messed up?

Reply 18

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greenturtle

Ok well if he has got worse then you seriously need to talk to him but sleep on it and talk to him tomorow but like I said try and separate yourself from him tonight.

Sleep on it, and you will have a clearer head in the morning, and just sit down with him and talk about what he said, and ask why he said that.. It's beyond strange..

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