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    hey everyone so im just curious, if you were dating a guy who couldnt get aroused due to depression/anxiety, what would you do and would it slightly worry you
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    hey everyone so im just curious, if you were dating a guy who couldnt get aroused due to depression/anxiety, what would you do and would it slightly worry you
    Kind of yes
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    Guess it's just hard for him





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    joking aside, yeah kinda
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    Even depressed guys can be horny as ****. He's probably too anxious for some reason, you've got to talk to him about it.
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    Must be getting used to you i guess
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    hey everyone so im just curious, if you were dating a guy who couldnt get aroused due to depression/anxiety, what would you do and would it slightly worry you
    If he has never ever had a boner before, there must be some other medical issue causing the impotence.
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    (Original post by Namita Gurung)
    Guess it's just hard for him




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    joking aside, yeah kinda
    It's been a long time
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    hey everyone so im just curious, if you were dating a guy who couldnt get aroused due to depression/anxiety, what would you do and would it slightly worry you
    Ask him to see a Doctor as soon as possible. If he has gotten a boner before. Maybe (this may sound harsh) he does not fancy you that well or he may just be stressed.

    You should try to make him relaxed. Go away or have a couple time with him to get him in the mood. If it does not happen, then call a doctor.

    Good luck
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    Thanks for your help
    just to clarify - we are both 18 and he has gotten a boner before (having been through puberty etc lol)

    but since I met him he's always been depressed and said this has given him a really low sex drive, so he rarely gets boners and can't maintain them

    we've been over each others houses a few times, dating for 4 months now and he's never been sufficiently aroused :/
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    Medical/mental health issue. Is he on medication? If so he's going to have to come off them/try a different type as by the looks of things it effects his sexual drive.
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    (Original post by DanteTheDoorWot)
    It's been a long time
    Let's not hijack this thread with puns :teehee:

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    Couldn't think of a better one :unsure:
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    (Original post by Namita Gurung)
    Let's not hijack this thread with puns :teehee:
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    Couldn't think of a better one :unsure:
    I guess we can't just *** on this poor girls thread and start making jokes, she might have a bone to pick with us
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    Yeah, he should see his GP
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    Guy who can't get an erection has a gf; meanwhile, I'm alone.

    The is no justice in this world.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Thanks for your help
    just to clarify - we are both 18 and he has gotten a boner before (having been through puberty etc lol)

    but since I met him he's always been depressed and said this has given him a really low sex drive, so he rarely gets boners and can't maintain them

    we've been over each others houses a few times, dating for 4 months now and he's never been sufficiently aroused :/
    Do it anyways.
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    (Original post by DanteTheDoorWot)
    I guess we can't just *** on this poor girls thread and start making jokes, she might have a bone to pick with us
    :rofl3::rofl3:
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Thanks for your help
    just to clarify - we are both 18 and he has gotten a boner before (having been through puberty etc lol)

    but since I met him he's always been depressed and said this has given him a really low sex drive, so he rarely gets boners and can't maintain them

    we've been over each others houses a few times, dating for 4 months now and he's never been sufficiently aroused :/
    If he takes medication and this is affecting his sex drive in a way that he isn't happy about, then he absolutely can go back to his doctor and say that it isn't working for him. Some old fashioned doctors might try and say that that's one of those side effects you should just live with because they think sex carries absolutely no importance etc. but you don't have to stick with any side effect if you think it's a deal breaker.
    I took a tablet that had the side effect of possibly making it harder/impossible for women to orgasm, I didn't find out if I had that side effect because I gave it up for the other side effects like restless legs and extreme tiredness at the same time so I wanted to sleep but couldn't, but it damn well would have been a deal breaker for me.

    If he's not on medication and he is struggling when he is on his own as well as with you, there may be something physical at play, and he should see his doctor about this.

    If he's not on medication and he's fine on his own but too anxious with you then this could be something that you'd have to work on together, or could be a sign that his mental health needs attention in response to anxiety in general - if he trusts you and is comfortable then this anxiety shouldn't really interfere.
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    I have to be honest. I have two friends that something similar to this happened to. One friend dated a guy for 8-9 mos and he just had a low sex drive. My other friend dated this guy for four years (!) and as a good Christian he wanted to respect her so they never took their relationship to the next level beyond kissing and cuddling. It turns out that both guys are gay. I am not saying this is the situation in your case but you may have to consider this. Both guys, in my friends' case, felt that they needed to be traditional and tried to follow that track. They are now both 'out' - one friends has gone on to marry someone else and my other friend isn't married but she's dated several guys since then.
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    I have to be honest. I have two friends that something similar to this happened to. One friend dated a guy for 8-9 mos and he just had a low sex drive. My other friend dated this guy for four years (!) and as a good Christian he wanted to respect her so they never took their relationship to the next level beyond kissing and cuddling. It turns out that both guys are gay. I am not saying this is the situation in your case but you may have to consider this. Both guys, in my friends' case, felt that they needed to be traditional and tried to follow that track. They are now both 'out' - one friends has gone on to marry someone else and my other friend isn't married but she's dated several guys since then.
    I did honestly think that he was gay but after speaking to him he just seems nervous
    This sounds bad but I just don't think he's ready for a relationship, sometimes he won't talk to me properly for days because of his depression
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    The puns of these threads have no chill........

    Yeah, that's worrying.
 
 
 
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