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    I have a really embarrassing problem with premature ejaculation.
    Im 18 years old and usually last like 30 seconds and there doesn't seem to be that much i can do about it.
    I had one relationship last year and we did have sex but i was so embarrassed i just made up some reason to get rid of her because i didn't feel good enough.

    I'm not bad looking so occasionally girls will try to get with me on nights out ect and i'm never really interested because I'm scared it could lead to sex.
    It's making me quite depressed and I try to avoid girls pretty much as much as possible now, my sex drive has become so low i don't even care anymore.

    What would you do?
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    I'm sorry that's happening to you.. I was told by a sex toy expert, that if you drink energy drinks more often you can numb your penis a little over time and make it harder to come. Also I've been told the more you masturbate it'll make it better to.
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    got them all covered man!
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    got them all covered man!
    lol hahah nice man

    btw I heard drinking can help you last longer??
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I have a really embarrassing problem with premature ejaculation.
    Im 18 years old and usually last like 30 seconds and there doesn't seem to be that much i can do about it.
    I had one relationship last year and we did have sex but i was so embarrassed i just made up some reason to get rid of her because i didn't feel good enough.

    I'm not bad looking so occasionally girls will try to get with me on nights out ect and i'm never really interested because I'm scared it could lead to sex.
    It's making me quite depressed and I try to avoid girls pretty much as much as possible now, my sex drive has become so low i don't even care anymore.

    What would you do?
    Pretty common.

    I would see a doctor and get some medical advice.
    If not there are things you can do at home to increase your stamina. If you catch my drift. (Google will help here)
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    Benzocaine and kegels.
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    Even though i have no experience of this matter i'd suggest you see a doctor as once or twice is normal but everytime seems a bit off
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    This really seems to be causing a lot of distress, go see your doctor & they can help.Also, a lot of women struggle to orgasm from just sex, so if you're worried about premature ejaculation then do lots of foreplay first so you know the woman has enjoyed it just as much as you.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I have a really embarrassing problem with premature ejaculation.
    Im 18 years old and usually last like 30 seconds and there doesn't seem to be that much i can do about it.
    I had one relationship last year and we did have sex but i was so embarrassed i just made up some reason to get rid of her because i didn't feel good enough.

    I'm not bad looking so occasionally girls will try to get with me on nights out ect and i'm never really interested because I'm scared it could lead to sex.
    It's making me quite depressed and I try to avoid girls pretty much as much as possible now, my sex drive has become so low i don't even care anymore.

    What would you do?
    **** ring?
    or *** once and try and get a stiffy again?
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    Think about something else?

    Like flowers in a field or something... (This is the advice my old science teacher gave to the guys in my class...)
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    I think seeking medical advice or doing some research on your current situation will benefit you. Although I'm a girl and have no experience in the field of male genitalia, you probably aren't the only person having this issue right now
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    Loads of men have this problem of something similar. 1 technique I heard to allow us guys to last longer is to have plenty of foreplay which is essential as it allows a couple to build up their bond instead of jumping right into bonking straight away.

    Let the lady touch your manhood up to the point where you feel like its going to blow then stop there, she will then need to squeeze gently just behind the head of your manhood until it starts to go soft then when your body has come back down from the point of feeling like your going to orgasm start playing again ( gently ) and repeat this process as long as is necessary over several occasions and eventually you will be able to last longer.

    Ok I admit I had this issue a few years ago but after talking with my otherhalf of 14 years she said she would help me sort this problem out and through many sessions of foreplay we did sort it out.

    I won't BS you here it will take time but after all thats the idea, to take time, because its not a rush, its not wham bam thankyou mam you must take your time or women will just get the impression you want to get it over and done with asap and that can lead to issues between men and women in couples.

    So most importantly remember take your time, try the process I described above in this post but it does take time and will help build your confidence up aswell and confidence is important to both men and women.
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    Loads of men have this problem of something similar. 1 technique I heard to allow us guys to last longer is to have plenty of foreplay which is essential as it allows a couple to build up their bond instead of jumping right into bonking straight away.

    Let the lady touch your manhood up to the point where you feel like its going to blow then stop there, she will then need to squeeze gently just behind the head of your manhood until it starts to go soft then when your body has come back down from the point of feeling like your going to orgasm start playing again ( gently ) and repeat this process as long as is necessary over several occasions and eventually you will be able to last longer.

    Ok I admit I had this issue a few years ago but after talking with my otherhalf of 14 years she said she would help me sort this problem out and through many sessions of foreplay we did sort it out.

    I won't BS you here it will take time but after all thats the idea, to take time, because its not a rush, its not wham bam thankyou mam you must take your time or women will just get the impression you want to get it over and done with asap and that can lead to issues between men and women in couples.

    So most importantly remember take your time, try the process I described above in this post but it does take time and will help build your confidence up aswell and confidence is important to both men and women.
    thank you! This sounds like good advice!
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    lol hahah nice man

    btw I heard drinking can help you last longer??
    yeah i've not had the opportunity yet but it could work!
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    There is no evidence to suggest that drinking will help a case like this. Research done a few years ago concluded that drinking alcohol is more likely to lead to impotence than an erection.

    If I were you I'd give the drink a miss.
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    You could always try to release yourself sometime earlier. Aside from that it's best to seek professional help.
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    lol hahah nice man

    btw I heard drinking can help you last longer??
    no no no
    it's the colombian nose powder
    that's the ticket to lasting
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I have a really embarrassing problem with premature ejaculation.
    Im 18 years old and usually last like 30 seconds and there doesn't seem to be that much i can do about it.
    I had one relationship last year and we did have sex but i was so embarrassed i just made up some reason to get rid of her because i didn't feel good enough.

    I'm not bad looking so occasionally girls will try to get with me on nights out ect and i'm never really interested because I'm scared it could lead to sex.
    It's making me quite depressed and I try to avoid girls pretty much as much as possible now, my sex drive has become so low i don't even care anymore.

    What would you do?
    Just jerk off to porn and try last as long as possible without ejaculating, stop for a few seconds if you have to. It's mostly just about self-control.

    I also find that staying relaxed helps out a lot with lasting longer, e.g. try not to tense your leg muscles
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I have a really embarrassing problem with premature ejaculation.
    Im 18 years old and usually last like 30 seconds and there doesn't seem to be that much i can do about it.
    I had one relationship last year and we did have sex but i was so embarrassed i just made up some reason to get rid of her because i didn't feel good enough.

    I'm not bad looking so occasionally girls will try to get with me on nights out ect and i'm never really interested because I'm scared it could lead to sex.
    It's making me quite depressed and I try to avoid girls pretty much as much as possible now, my sex drive has become so low i don't even care anymore.

    What would you do?
    I heard that there was some sort of exercise you can do with your penis to strengthen a muscle down there. It helps with what you're going through. I think it's called the pissy muscle but I'm not sure. Google for more info.
 
 
 
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