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    So I am at university and by our student accommodation we have a bar, I met this girl there last month and we started talking for roughly 4 weeks - I finally went round hers to do the deed.. but to our surprise, I couldnt get it up, we tried and tried but nothing was happening. I was really attracted to her and think she's so hot so I don't know why I couldn't get it up. Anyways after an hour of trying she slyly implied for me to leave, so I left. I text her the next morning and received no reply so I text her again the day after to ask if she wanted to grab ad drink - still no reply. So I went to see if she was online on facebook and noticed she deleted me as a friend.

    I am really hurt and it has ruined my confidence. Anyways we are at the same university and in the same accommodation area, it's in central London so as you can imagine, everything is close together and walking distance. Whenever I walk to the uni or walking back from uni to my room I always walk past her and she kinda like puts her head down and crosses the road.

    Anyways this is really hurting me and I don't know what to do, I walked past her again today - we can't avoid eachother. It's inevitable that we will continue walking past one another. I've now become really embarrassed so whenever I go to go out and I see her outside I will wait in my room until she leaves so I can go out without her seeing me.

    Should I confront her when I next walk past her or will I begin to look like a stalker - any advice
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    Aww dont worry about that-if you're really worried, go to a doctor and get it checked out...god knows why she's not replying-I think that it is extremely rude of her, she shouldn't do that.....tbh I feel really disgusted by her behaviour...it makes me feel sick that she would act like this...maybe you should confront her, but make sure that it is just you two together...
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    You've got a couple of options.

    A) Go up to her and ask what's going on. Apologize for not being able to perform, but remind her that it can happen to anyone and that you shouldn't be made to feel bad for something you couldn't control. (Don't text. Don't call. Physically walk up and speak to her. She has made it clear that she wants to be left alone as indicated by her blocking you, and further persistence could lead you into trouble. The reasons why I suggest this as an option is because she may be more willing to talk in person).

    B) Ignore her. If she was willing to drop you like that over an unfortunate evening, then she isn't worth your time quite honestly.

    Understand there are a variety of reasons why she did this. Maybe she was embarrassed herself, thinking it was because of her that you couldn't achieve an erection. Maybe she was only after a one-nighter/friends-with-benefits and your inability to perform indicated to her you weren't "worthy" of such an encounter. Maybe she's a stuck-up ignorant ***** that doesn't give a damn about anyone's feelings and is unrealistically expecting perfection from her sexual partners even know she herself isn't perfect. Who knows buddy, who knows.
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    Shes probably thinking something is WRONG with her.....
    That you aren't attracted to her that's why you couldn't pop a stiffy. And feeling insecure.
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    It sounded like she just wanted sex nothing more, if she really cared about you she would have understood. Just ignore her she is immature.
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    It just didn't work out like many early encounters don't work out. Nothing to be done but to hold your head high and move on. If she's not interested anymore she's not interested.
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    Hello Anon

    Sorry you had to experience such treatment from another person, don't blame yourself or be ashamed of yourself it's a natural thing for this to happen sometimes. You have done nothing wrong in this event, unfortunately you just happened to have met a person who is uncaring in nature. Don't let this moment in your life affect you further and try and continue living life doing things that make you happy, eventually this won't even be worth thinking about and you will forget the bother.

    I hope you can move away from this situation and not let it affect your future relationships with women, not all women are so bad some can be understanding.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    So I am at university and by our student accommodation we have a bar, I met this girl there last month and we started talking for roughly 4 weeks - I finally went round hers to do the deed.. but to our surprise, I couldnt get it up, we tried and tried but nothing was happening. I was really attracted to her and think she's so hot so I don't know why I couldn't get it up. Anyways after an hour of trying she slyly implied for me to leave, so I left. I text her the next morning and received no reply so I text her again the day after to ask if she wanted to grab ad drink - still no reply. So I went to see if she was online on facebook and noticed she deleted me as a friend.

    I am really hurt and it has ruined my confidence. Anyways we are at the same university and in the same accommodation area, it's in central London so as you can imagine, everything is close together and walking distance. Whenever I walk to the uni or walking back from uni to my room I always walk past her and she kinda like puts her head down and crosses the road.

    Anyways this is really hurting me and I don't know what to do, I walked past her again today - we can't avoid eachother. It's inevitable that we will continue walking past one another. I've now become really embarrassed so whenever I go to go out and I see her outside I will wait in my room until she leaves so I can go out without her seeing me.

    Should I confront her when I next walk past her or will I begin to look like a stalker - any advice
    Take viagra next time :rofl:
 
 
 
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