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    So I started a London uni in September - to be honest, I've had a pretty limited social life due to managing the huge workload alongside a long-term condition. I've socialised mostly with my flatmates and people on my course. Most of my flatmates are international students who are only staying a year -- including the one I'm really close to -- and the others will only socialise with people of their nationality.

    On my course I did meet one girl who I felt really close to -- she also had a long-term condition and so understood the pitfalls. We spent the year supporting each other and met up often with our other friends from the course or alone. On the last day of term we met up and we're talking about renting together - our conditions meant that we both could probably stay in halls, but neither of us really fancied doing it for a second year. Anyway, fast-forward to the Easter holls and she has a bad accident doing sport that means she can't walk for several months. I still spoke to her on message, but she'd been pretty quiet overall.

    Anyway now we've all finished exams she came back to London and we all got together for a movie night. I was completely taken aback when I found out she's moving in with another girl, who I also know. This girl's parents have a flat in London and she'd been planning on living there alone. She's actually jokingly said to both of us that one of us could move in so she wouldn't be so lonely.

    Now, I don't really hold it against the other girl, who I'm also friends with. But I feel like my supposed "best" uni friend should have checked with me given that we were thinking about renting together. She knew she was the only person I could rent with (due to my hall mates' mostly being exchange students) and everyone else I know on my course moving in with current flatmates Really don't know what to do - I made an excuse and left early because I was so shocked/upset and spent the evening depressed and in tears Thankfully I will hopefully be allowed to stay in halls, but I really liked the idea of living out and being more independent and living with a friend - now that all seems to have disappeared

    Aside from the long term condition, I had exactly the same problem as you. In my first year of university, I grew really close to someone. We ended up looking for a house together however she had 3 other girls she wanted to live with. I didn't feel comfortable with living with so many people so long story short she ended up moving in with them and leaving me to fend for myself. It really sucked, we actually aren't friends anymore because I was so upset I lashed out. But I joined Sparerooms (the website) and ended up moving in with some really cool people. You don't have to be limited to halls if you don't want to be! There will always be spare rooms in London. It might be good to ask around and meet up with people who need roomates. I hope you're okay, I know how much it sucks!
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