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    Since i've been in a relationship with him, there's been one girl who has been extremely possessive and defensive , like she is his mum. And I fear her more than his own father. The thing is, it feels like i'm in a relationship with her as I always worry about what she will think of me and like i have to please her, since if anyone can break us up, it would be her. I don't know what to do.. because I don't want to care about what she thinks , but she's made it clear that she doesn't like me and she's only being civil because he loves me a lot.

    Worst thing is, she hasn't met me, so it just feels like I have so much to prove .
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    I know this is going to seem rude but seriously tell her to back off. He's your man, at the end of the day you don't need to impress her, he is with you. I suggest try talking to your bf about it, or if you can't then talk to a close friend, that helps a lot.
    good luck
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    I agree. Talk to your boyfriend. If he really loves you then what this other woman thinks shouldn't matter. If she is just a friend of his I would let her know that he is with you and if she cares abot him and his happiness then she would stay out of his relationship.
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    (Original post by 30.10.12)
    I know this is going to seem rude but seriously tell her to back off. He's your man, at the end of the day you don't need to impress her, he is with you. I suggest try talking to your bf about it, or if you can't then talk to a close friend, that helps a lot.
    good luck
    yeah, I did and he said that she has a weird motherly instinct when it comes to him. And he understands , I just said, at least don't mention her because, I don't want to create friction.
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    (Original post by Cinderellie74)
    I agree. Talk to your boyfriend. If he really loves you then what this other woman thinks shouldn't matter. If she is just a friend of his I would let her know that he is with you and if she cares abot him and his happiness then she would stay out of his relationship.
    yeah, but it's hard for someone who's like a best friend and probably cares more about him than I do, I just hate the feeling of competing . But, he said it's because i'm not understanding and don't listen to him fully, so he asks for advice from her.
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    Well that's kind of expected :/ Best friends are bound to get jealous when you get a girlfriend because suddenly its like they've been replaced. Or she could like him and therefore dislike you
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    yeah, I did and he said that she has a weird motherly instinct when it comes to him. And he understands , I just said, at least don't mention her because, I don't want to create friction.
    yeah tbh it just sounds like they are just close mates and she's just looking out for him. I wouldn't be too worried if I was in that situation, but obviously always be a bit cautious
 
 
 
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