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    To cut to the point, I really like this girl in my A2classes but I don’t know whether to tell her or not.Now for some more depth... I only met this girl in Septemberbut over the course of the last 9 months my feelings for her have developed tremendously.We’re in the same classes for 2 A Levels and in one of them we sit together andtalk to each other most of the lesson. Her social media presence is definitelya lot bigger than mine, and it seems as though she could have anyone she wants.I don’t want to sound like a jerk, however, she isn’t the skinniest orprettiest (even though she is really good looking), but that doesn’t matter tome because I honestly think she’s beautiful, I’m just trying to paint a pictureof the type of girl she is. She is smart, funny, sarcastic, beautiful, successful(she runs her own small business at only 19) and most of all, always puts asmile on my face. I always try flirting with her and I seem to make her laugh.I can tell she likes me but I’m not sure if it’s as a friend. She engages inconversation and seems genuinely interested/ concerned about what I have tosay. I can see that much in the way she looks at me. I haven’t had a girlfriendin a couple of years and so I’m not very good at seeing any signs she might begiving me (that she likes me or that she doesn’t). She has told me however thatI distract her (not in a bad way) and that she does more work if I’m not in thelesson. I’ve thought about the possibility of getting together with her a lotbut it always seems too good to be true until recently someone in my classrandomly came up to me and was asking what was going on between us. I replied “nothing”but confessed my feelings for this girl, to which she replied “I knew it!”. Sheis convinced that this girl is always flirting with me, but again, I find ithard to read the signs. My car broke down about 2 months ago, and as she livesnear me, she offered to drive me to and from college every day for about 2weeks.Recently, I hadn’t been to my classes in about 3 weeks(personal problems) and hadn’t messaged her or seen her in the same time frame.I saw her this week and she seemed happy to see me. The problem is that I havejust decided to pull out of college and re-sit the year (again, personal problems),meaning I don’t have to attend any more classes until September. This beingsaid, I went to see her after everything was finalised but she was with herfriends. She’s going to university in September and so as I was about to leaveshe said “have a good life/ enjoy your life”. This hit me really hard because Irealised I may never see her again. With her university being about 30 minutes from where I livethe possibility of sustaining a relationship with her would be high (I think). Thequestion is: do I tell her how I really feel or risk regretting not doing so?Is it worth the embarrassment of being rejected? Do you think she does like me,or am I just trying to believe she does? Should I ask her out for a meal and afilm or coffee etc?Any help would be greatly appreciated. Sorry for the longpost, I just want to paint a full picture of my situation.s;E1���
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    Tell her! You never know, she might be thinking exactly the same thing. The signs sound pretty good to me, and like you said her unis only 30 mins away. Even if she doesn't feel the same whats the worst that can happen? She goes off to uni soon so you won't have to worry.
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    Just tell her, be confident about it.

    I wish you the best of luck .
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    You will regret it if you don't tell her but when you were off for 3 weeks did she message you at all?
    If I cared for someone I would have asked how they were that's the only bit that would make me think she is not interested that she didn't get in touch but she seems to care for you but as she is going to uni maybe she wants to start afresh and meet guys there and have fun so if you want closure tell her if she says no atleast you can move on.
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    So if I were to tell her, how would I go about doing so? I think I need the closure, after all, if she says yes she'll only live 30 minutes away, and if she says no then I may never see her again and won't risk being awkward between us. Should I ring her or message her to meet up so I can tell her face to face?
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    (Original post by DefinitelyNotTom)
    So if I were to tell her, how would I go about doing so? I think I need the closure, after all, if she says yes she'll only live 30 minutes away, and if she says no then I may never see her again and won't risk being awkward between us. Should I ring her or message her to meet up so I can tell her face to face?
    Its up to whether you ring or message her, but say as you never got a chance to say bye properly whether she would like to go for lunch/coffee and have a catch up then tell her.
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    definitely tell her.
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    Do what you gotta do son. Thats how dad did it.
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    I would ask her out instead of telling her but that is just me.
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    You said it yourself ~ you may never see her again.

    There's nothing to lose, just do it! :cute:
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