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I am addicted to escorts/prosititues! please help!

So around a year ago I broke up with my girlfriend of 2 years. I got a few one nights stands and flings at uni.

One day I was bored, and no girls on the go, and started looking at escorts. Not sure how I got looking at them, but next minute I had one booked and ended up sleeping with her. A week later I had a date, didnt go so well, we had no chemistry. So driving home feeling bad, I looked up escorts again, and the ended up sleeping with another one.

you can see how to ends up, I kept seeing escorts. Every type of girl imaginable I could sleep with. From the young red hair teen to a older women with children to someone from a another country. I just feel dirty after and enjoy that feeling. I like the feeling of going to a strangers house, knowing they will be touching me within 2 mins of me walking in. I like, how with some escorts (non-english), that they will no speak a word of english, but next thing i know, I am sleeping with them.

This addiction has affected my dating/relationship life. For example the last two girls I liked. I dated them, emotionally I enjoyed the relationships and their company, but I didnt want anything to do with them sexually, I just didnt feel the same adrenaline of seeing an escort.

Ive been dating less and less, talking to girls at uni less and less. My friends have noticed this.

so I need to drop this bad habit, I want to be back into a relationships again. I want to be normal again. I dont know who I can really talk to to help me overcome this issue.

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foreign girlfriend who's really horny.
Arent escorts expensive?
How old are you? Do your parents know?
Are you rich or what?
Or is this a bait post??
Reply 3
Stop it.You might have protected sex but still catch stuff like herpes and hpv.Think about your health.
Save your money and **** yourself off. [Sorry for being so crude]. Men who pay often large sums of money to these women are mugs.
Reply 5
Original post by BirdIsWord
Arent escorts expensive?
How old are you? Do your parents know?
Are you rich or what?
Or is this a bait post??


depends on the lady, but average is 40 for 15 mins or 120 for an hour with a very hot english girl.
I am 21, no my parents do not know.
I work part time, and full time over the holidays, which is more than enough for rent and food and uni. Uni loans and scholarships pay for the habit.
Reply 6
Original post by vinchy
Stop it.You might have protected sex but still catch stuff like herpes and hpv.Think about your health.


Original post by markova21
Save your money and **** yourself off. [Sorry for being so crude]. Men who pay often large sums of money to these women are mugs.


I agree STDs are a big issue. But speaking to a gum clinic, they said just do check ups and use condoms and ill be fine.

yes I want to save my money and give this up, but everytime I try nothing happens,
Original post by Anonymous
So around a year ago I broke up with my girlfriend of 2 years. I got a few one nights stands and flings at uni.

One day I was bored, and no girls on the go, and started looking at escorts. Not sure how I got looking at them, but next minute I had one booked and ended up sleeping with her. A week later I had a date, didnt go so well, we had no chemistry. So driving home feeling bad, I looked up escorts again, and the ended up sleeping with another one.

you can see how to ends up, I kept seeing escorts. Every type of girl imaginable I could sleep with. From the young red hair teen to a older women with children to someone from a another country. I just feel dirty after and enjoy that feeling. I like the feeling of going to a strangers house, knowing they will be touching me within 2 mins of me walking in. I like, how with some escorts (non-english), that they will no speak a word of english, but next thing i know, I am sleeping with them.

This addiction has affected my dating/relationship life. For example the last two girls I liked. I dated them, emotionally I enjoyed the relationships and their company, but I didnt want anything to do with them sexually, I just didnt feel the same adrenaline of seeing an escort.

Ive been dating less and less, talking to girls at uni less and less. My friends have noticed this.

so I need to drop this bad habit, I want to be back into a relationships again. I want to be normal again. I dont know who I can really talk to to help me overcome this issue.

Bend your willy back into your butt and you'll be reminded of many things
I would say.....perhaps you need to talk more BE MORE SOCIAL...
GO OUT with ur friends...WATCH LOOOAAADDDSSS OF MOVIES...WITH SOMEONE
BE WITH SOMEONE all the time either online or phone ect... to avoid such thoughts....
or I know this might sound stupid but think about the type of person you would like to send your life with...
put thoughts to paper....and imagine if you'd actually find someone who ticks all boxes...DO IT FOR HER!!!
GIVE UP ON THIS LUST...
Reply 9
Original post by Missimperfect18
I would say.....perhaps you need to talk more BE MORE SOCIAL...
GO OUT with ur friends...WATCH LOOOAAADDDSSS OF MOVIES...WITH SOMEONE
BE WITH SOMEONE all the time either online or phone ect... to avoid such thoughts....
or I know this might sound stupid but think about the type of person you would like to send your life with...
put thoughts to paper....and imagine if you'd actually find someone who ticks all boxes...DO IT FOR HER!!!
GIVE UP ON THIS LUST...


The problem isnt finding another girl, I have dated plenty. But I just dont feel like chasing girls anymore.

but you are right, If I avoid the internet, and try to be around people I will forget about this habit.

and thanks, your advice is good, its not stupid. I will try and remember all the things I like about a girl, and work around her.
Original post by Steelmeat
Bend your willy back into your butt and you'll be reminded of many things


I guess this is why you are called stealmeat, you seem like you do like a good butt plug
Original post by Anonymous
I agree STDs are a big issue. But speaking to a gum clinic, they said just do check ups and use condoms and ill be fine.

yes I want to save my money and give this up, but everytime I try nothing happens,


Well if you feel you genuinely have a problem, I.E. are addicted to sex, i'm sure I heard of an Alcoholics Anonymous type program for sex addicts. There are Overeaters Anonymous,Gamblers Anonymous,I think there's even something now called Feelings Anonymous [???]. If you Googled it i'm sure there would be info. There's also probably a few Forums out there specifically about this you could join. It sounds as though it is more about the excitement than the actual sex with you. The same thrill a gambler gets from gambling even when he is massively in debt. You need to be speaking with people who feel exactly the same way you do and understand your situation because they go through it as well. Good luck.
Original post by Anonymous
So around a year ago I broke up with my girlfriend of 2 years. I got a few one nights stands and flings at uni.

One day I was bored, and no girls on the go, and started looking at escorts. Not sure how I got looking at them, but next minute I had one booked and ended up sleeping with her. A week later I had a date, didnt go so well, we had no chemistry. So driving home feeling bad, I looked up escorts again, and the ended up sleeping with another one.

you can see how to ends up, I kept seeing escorts. Every type of girl imaginable I could sleep with. From the young red hair teen to a older women with children to someone from a another country. I just feel dirty after and enjoy that feeling. I like the feeling of going to a strangers house, knowing they will be touching me within 2 mins of me walking in. I like, how with some escorts (non-english), that they will no speak a word of english, but next thing i know, I am sleeping with them.

This addiction has affected my dating/relationship life. For example the last two girls I liked. I dated them, emotionally I enjoyed the relationships and their company, but I didnt want anything to do with them sexually, I just didnt feel the same adrenaline of seeing an escort.

Ive been dating less and less, talking to girls at uni less and less. My friends have noticed this.

so I need to drop this bad habit, I want to be back into a relationships again. I want to be normal again. I dont know who I can really talk to to help me overcome this issue.


Save your money bro, unless you are rich
Original post by markova21
Well if you feel you genuinely have a problem, I.E. are addicted to sex, i'm sure I heard of an Alcoholics Anonymous type program for sex addicts. There are Overeaters Anonymous,Gamblers Anonymous,I think there's even something now called Feelings Anonymous [???]. If you Googled it i'm sure there would be info. There's also probably a few Forums out there specifically about this you could join. It sounds as though it is more about the excitement than the actual sex with you. The same thrill a gambler gets from gambling even when he is massively in debt. You need to be speaking with people who feel exactly the same way you do and understand your situation because they go through it as well. Good luck.


Yeah I think that is the problem, the excitement of knowing im sleeping with a stranger who doesnt know my name. Okay ill have a look around the internet, im sure someone must have been in my situation.
Original post by Anonymous
The problem isnt finding another girl, I have dated plenty. But I just dont feel like chasing girls anymore.

but you are right, If I avoid the internet, and try to be around people I will forget about this habit.

and thanks, your advice is good, its not stupid. I will try and remember all the things I like about a girl, and work around her.


I guess true love and compromising relationships are hard to find perhaps that's why
your tired...
honestly I loved this guy...for 3 years...unconditionally despite him breaking me to pieces I felt like I was ugly...he made me feel insecure about everything about myself...
I gave up on everything..including my dream of becoming a doctor...

then one day my best friend made me realise that WE NEED TO CONTROL OUR FEELINGS IF WE LET THEM TAKE OVER.....WE WOULD FALL AND PEOPLE HAVE THE TRAIT TO WALK OVER...NO ONE STOPS FOR YOU!!

SO yh go out smile more and OVERCOME THESE FEELINGS... I KNOW U CAN
Original post by Anonymous
I guess this is why you are called stealmeat, you seem like you do like a good butt plug


Lol the hardest meat xD
Reply 16
Original post by Anonymous
I agree STDs are a big issue. But speaking to a gum clinic, they said just do check ups and use condoms and ill be fine.

yes I want to save my money and give this up, but everytime I try nothing happens,

Hpv and herpes are still passed on to areas not covered by genitals.
ADVICE:dont get unprotected oral.Oral herpes can turn genital.
Original post by BirdIsWord
Arent escorts expensive?
How old are you? Do your parents know?
Are you rich or what?
Or is this a bait post??


Yes of course he is rich . This is what we do. I understand because my family is worth 8 figures .
I won’t lie I’m in the exact same situation now. And it’s annoying because the money is not the issue and I can easily afford the most expensive ones. The way I’m trying to stop if by making it a physical goal and rewarding my self through a different by experience for being escort free. But I do fully understand how it can get addictive. Always new good looking girls popping up so you imagine what it would be like to have sex with them. Stay strong ✊🏻
Reply 19
Addiction is a complex issue, and maybe no one's advice will help you. I would advise talking to your GP about it, who can then direct you to other services which can help you, particularly counselling/therapy. You may need to spend a long time talking to someone about it to help get to the bottom of why you're addicted. Only then can you start to make some changes.

Take a look here to get some more info.
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