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    Hi there,
    I will be applying to university this year. I suffer with extreme anxiety and the thought of living in halls terrifies me. The impression I get is that its noisy, theres loud parties and students usually get drunk most nights. Is it really like this? Would staying in halls of residence be realistic for someone extremely quiet, anxious and who does not like interacting with others? The thought of passing students in corridors during the day and at night scares me? Any advice would be very appriciated, Thanks
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    There's only parties and **** going on in like the first week before they start issuing warnings and **** lol.

    Yeah students will be getting drunk for pre-drinks obviously and it will be loud at times.

    HOWEVER, when you apply for accommodation there are usually options such as wanting to live with people who don't drink/go clubbing/choosing to live with only your gender, etc. So you can always put that down

    It sounds like to me you have severe social anxiety so I would contact your universities about it and let them know in advance (because the options in bold seem like a necessity for you).

    So living in halls is very possible
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    I'm not exactly going to University yet (Applying this year, going next year), but seemingly enough according to a lot of threads it depends on what place you live in at the University. I plan to apply to Bath and for example there are places that are more known for socialising, etcetera, and places for quiet and peace. You can pay extra for en suite rooms without other people, or shared rooms at a lower cost but with people. Unless you're willing to dish out a lot of extra cash, you'll be stuck usually in a larger flat.

    I lost the original thread I had read (there were pages upon pages of tales of moving in to halls) but here is a good one; http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/show....php?t=2517829

    There are some tales, but quite a bit of advice. I've some social anxiety when it comes to new things and such, and I can imagine that seeing a drunk student walking down a hallway in the middle of the night with some beer in one hand and vomit in the other not being a nice sight. Either ways, just Google "University Halls moving in stories" and avoid the ones that have the word Horror in the results, a lot of them are actually not too bad. Other than that, you'll need to try to confront your fears, even a little.

    Sorry for my terribleness on this post. I don't go to Uni *yet* and my PC is out for repairs. This potato is terrible xD
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    (Original post by catherine22117)
    Hi there,
    I will be applying to university this year. I suffer with extreme anxiety and the thought of living in halls terrifies me. The impression I get is that its noisy, theres loud parties and students usually get drunk most nights. Is it really like this? Would staying in halls of residence be realistic for someone extremely quiet, anxious and who does not like interacting with others? The thought of passing students in corridors during the day and at night scares me? Any advice would be very appriciated, Thanks
    Hello

    The impression you have is a common misconception that a lot of students have in your situation - don't get me wrong, a lot of the impressions you are are correct but at the end of the day, it depends on the type of halls you live in and the people you live with.

    At my university there were two accommodations on campus, one building consisted of three floors and rooms along the corridors. Ground and first floor were all girls, second and third were mixed. In the other accommodation there were 'flats' and two - three flats per floor, therefore, in the flats there was around six rooms but you had your own little section. In halls you get the people that party all the time, you get the ones that don't. Unfortunately, it's difficult to say. Sometimes you can be in halls and they can be noisy but this isn't always the case - even if it is, there is usually a porters number you can call to complain about the noise and they'll come and sort it out pretty quick. If you are living in a flat, you may have people that don't like going out and drinking etc - as someones already mentioned you can usually specify what you're looking for when applying to halls.

    Don't let the impressions you've heard cause you to worry. If you let the ideas sink in you'll start panicking about university and it won't help your anxiety - I have a mild form of anxiety and doing things like that don't help me. Halls are usually great fun and you'll find people who are like you and you'll have a great time - there is only a minority of people out of all students that don't enjoy it - but as I've said, you'll be able to have some control over your accommodation.

    There are a lot of students in your situation and especially in my first year I met a girl similar to you. She suffered a serious case of anxiety and rarely left her room but slowly and surely I started to include her in movie days and just genuiely chilling out and it helped out. You'll find people that are like you and understand what you are going through and they'll support you.
    Just attempt to not drag yourself down and worry before you've even started.

    I apologise if this hasn't been helpful.
    Best of luck and I hope you have a fantastic time at university!
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    some students will have the experience you described and others wont... it tends to be certain flats that will be constantly loud/partying... the only problem is that you can't control whether or not you're near one of them and in my experience all this 'I would like to live with quiet people' is mostly ignored or you get a quiet flat next to a noisy one and it's pointless anyway

    you should speak to disability services asap... you may qualify for additional funding which could pay for a smaller flat/ensuite/studio etc as required, if not they will at least be a point of contact if you're struggling to cope during uni

    other options include living out of halls for your first year, it will be harder to make friends but private halls tend to be quieter and have older students in them
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    (Original post by catherine22117)
    Hi there,
    I will be applying to university this year. I suffer with extreme anxiety and the thought of living in halls terrifies me. The impression I get is that its noisy, theres loud parties and students usually get drunk most nights. Is it really like this? Would staying in halls of residence be realistic for someone extremely quiet, anxious and who does not like interacting with others? The thought of passing students in corridors during the day and at night scares me? Any advice would be very appriciated, Thanks
    Depending on the specific halls, yes, they can be very noisy and there will almost always be someone going out and getting drunk, definitely at weekends and on weekdays too, although far from everyone. In my halls there was a party somewhere more or less every weekend, although they were made to finish by midnight. I wouldn't really advise staying in halls if you don't like interacting with others. There are many such people who do and some of them have a very unpleasant time, since a group of strangers living with each other needs to be able to communicate and get on or there will be conflicts, and the side with the largest number will win. You can be lucky or unlucky, and if you have good flatmates they will be friendly and understanding, but if you go in with a mindset of not wanting to interact at all they will reflect that.
 
 
 
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