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    Whether they are older or younger than me, and seem to have it all together in the first instance they always seem to have problems with alcohol/drug abuse, and broken childhoods despite being from seemingly decent backgrounds. Then I end up getting really attached and feeling like I need to save these poor 'lost boys' from the pain and hurt but they end up taking advantage for my kindness in the end.

    The worst part about them letting me go is not the consequence on me but I fear they will end up becoming full blown junkies so something in the future and continue in the cycle of pain. I feel like I could never forgive myself if that happened.

    I've had some issues in my own life but I've been working very hard for a long time to work through them. How do I at least find someone who is constructively working through their issues rather than abusing alcohol and drugs behind closed doors?

    Thank you
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    Whether they are older or younger than me, and seem to have it all together in the first instance they always seem to have problems with alcohol/drug abuse, and broken childhoods despite being from seemingly decent backgrounds. Then I end up getting really attached and feeling like I need to save these poor 'lost boys' from the pain and hurt but they end up taking advantage for my kindness in the end.

    The worst part about them letting me go is not the consequence on me but I fear they will end up becoming full blown junkies so something in the future and continue in the cycle of pain. I feel like I could never forgive myself if that happened.

    I've had some issues in my own life but I've been working very hard for a long time to work through them. How do I at least find someone who is constructively working through their issues rather than abusing alcohol and drugs behind closed doors?

    Thank you
    It's great that you want to help other people with their situations! You just need to remember that this is a risky chance for anything to happen. Don't be too kind as to let them take advantage of you sexually, show them that this is not tolerable or acceptable.
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    You should have more self-respect than offering yourself out of pity.
 
 
 
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