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    Hi,

    So basically I love clubbing, but I personally don't smoke, drink alcohol or take drugs.

    I have nothing against people who do drink alcohol, smoke or take drugs - but I do find some to be very rude and annoying. Anyways, just wanted to share my experiences here and get some opinions.

    People usually ask me why I go clubbing if I don't drink but to be fair, I am quite a good dancer and I get a buzz out of it. I do try and dance with girls but quite a lot of them really piss me off or get on my nerves. I know it is not nice just dancing with girls by force or even grind on them without permission- as it can result in sexual harassment - so I tend to ask them nicely. Funnily enough, most think I'm drunk and kind of push me away - yet when bad boys (drunk *****) grind on them they enjoy it so much. I just don't get it - do girls in club really like it when guys just hit on them without permission?

    Another thing is staff members working in toilets. I tend to be nice to them because I know people treat them like **** - yet they have the cheek to ask me for a tip. They don't ask any other drunk **** but me. However, its the opposite with security - who tend to work in my favour and we often share jokes. They too get surprised when I tell them that I am completely sober and often tell me about the sort of things they have to deal with. On the whole, the security are good but there have been occasions where they have been rude and aggressive.

    Overall clubbers at the club are again okay, but a lot of the girls there really get my nerves. They think it is okay to push people around and I have been pushed around but I just ignore it. I have had people try and start fights with me over nothing - but as I am quite good with security they tend to get a verbal warning or get thrown out.

    Just out of interest, do sober people turn up at clubs? I have never seen one sober person at a club in my life. Most are drunk as ****
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    I'm the same as you, i don't , smoke or do drugs and don't really drink and people spend half their lives asking me if i'm drunk. Its infuriating. There's nothing that you can do about it, its just how its going to be i think. i like clubbing but its hard because of where i live so when i go to uni i guess ill do more but i always make it known with the people i'm with if they get drunk im not looking after them past keeping them safe. Just because i'm sober, doesn't mean i get to play mum. I guess as you grow up people do more chatting and less drinking (I hope anyway) so i guess we'll have our time to shine then a bit more.

    On your other point, i would be really uncomfortable if some random guy started grinding on me whereas if some guy came up and asked to dance i'd find it more sweet.
    people are strange when drunk
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    (Original post by Samonia)
    I'm the same as you, i don't , smoke or do drugs and don't really drink and people spend half their lives asking me if i'm drunk. Its infuriating. There's nothing that you can do about it, its just how its going to be i think. i like clubbing but its hard because of where i live so when i go to uni i guess ill do more but i always make it known with the people i'm with if they get drunk im not looking after them past keeping them safe. Just because i'm sober, doesn't mean i get to play mum. I guess as you grow up people do more chatting and less drinking (I hope anyway) so i guess we'll have our time to shine then a bit more.

    On your other point, i would be really uncomfortable if some random guy started grinding on me whereas if some guy came up and asked to dance i'd find it more sweet.
    people are strange when drunk
    Thanks for replying to my thread. Wow it feels good to finally hear the experiences of another sober person.

    What do you think of clubbing generally as a sober person?
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    All good really as long as you like dancing and chatting then happy days. I also went clubbing a lot and don't drink, smoke or take drugs.
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    (Original post by samklipas0)
    Hi,

    So basically I love clubbing, but I personally don't smoke, drink alcohol or take drugs.

    I have nothing against people who do drink alcohol, smoke or take drugs - but I do find some to be very rude and annoying. Anyways, just wanted to share my experiences here and get some opinions.

    People usually ask me why I go clubbing if I don't drink but to be fair, I am quite a good dancer and I get a buzz out of it. I do try and dance with girls but quite a lot of them really piss me off or get on my nerves. I know it is not nice just dancing with girls by force or even grind on them without permission- as it can result in sexual harassment - so I tend to ask them nicely. Funnily enough, most think I'm drunk and kind of push me away - yet when bad boys (drunk *****) grind on them they enjoy it so much. I just don't get it - do girls in club really like it when guys just hit on them without permission?

    Another thing is staff members working in toilets. I tend to be nice to them because I know people treat them like **** - yet they have the cheek to ask me for a tip. They don't ask any other drunk **** but me. However, its the opposite with security - who tend to work in my favour and we often share jokes. They too get surprised when I tell them that I am completely sober and often tell me about the sort of things they have to deal with. On the whole, the security are good but there have been occasions where they have been rude and aggressive.

    Overall clubbers at the club are again okay, but a lot of the girls there really get my nerves. They think it is okay to push people around and I have been pushed around but I just ignore it. I have had people try and start fights with me over nothing - but as I am quite good with security they tend to get a verbal warning or get thrown out.

    Just out of interest, do sober people turn up at clubs? I have never seen one sober person at a club in my life. Most are drunk as ****
    Hey, I go clubbing and I don't tend to drink. Like you, I enjoy the buzz, I listen to music, I dance, generally socialise.

    I'm female, so let me tell you what I have noticed with the 'permission' thing. If girls have that opportunity to reject you (i.e. when you ask them), they will. It's an ego thing "look I'm rejecting guys because I'm so attractive". Other times, if you don't ask them, they might think "oh wow, he's dancing with me..let's keep this going". Then girls tend to ***** about guys who don't ask permission - it doesn't make a lot of sense. I think if you want to up your chances, don't ask permission, I'd say, make eye contact, and make it obvious that you're going to approach them to dance. And read the signs they give you, if they ignore you, or if they seem inviting.

    I feel like I might sound rude here, but it's TSR, so it's whatever. I tend to have a rather low opinion on people who "drink to have fun". People who drink to socialise and loosen up, fine, because they would still have fun sober. But those people who genuinely have an absolute **** night, can't dance, can't make friends, because they haven't had a sip of alcohol, I have no respect for them. The fact that they have to be intoxicated and they have to be an exaggerated version of themselves to have fun, shows how boring and what a low self esteem they actually have. It's actually quite pathetic if you rely on alcohol to have fun, rather than treat it as simply a drink.
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    I swear you guys have read my mind XD I don't drink out of personal choice but love dancing and going out as long as I'm caught up with work. People ask me if I am drunk because I love dancing so much and can just let loose.

    Regarding dancing, if a guy seems friendly and isn't drunk I'd dance with him. I think if someone's intoxicated it's quite intimidating because they have less control of their actions and behaviour. But, if someone isn't drinking and they just think you're a good dancer or fun person to be around then its harmless.
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    SIMPLE FACT YOUR A FKN BORE! Just loosin up a bit n get high on your own supply ! This is probably why u feel uncomfortable dancing with hot girls ........ future advise don’t ask to dry hump someone.
 
 
 
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