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    (Original post by Zoecb)
    Look, if you don't count it, then many lesbians have no sexual partners.
    So dude, it counts.
    lolol!

    But then you know...lesbianism was never illegal coz err queen vic didn't understand what the women would do.
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    You know I guess everyone has an opinion on this....but in all practical sense for a heterosexual male like myself....More or less the girls I've had sexual intercourse with seem to be the ones that fall into the "sexual partner" category.

    Like if I'm dating someone and they eventually might want to know how many girls I've been with I'm going to come up with the number of girls I've had sexual intercourse with....not a combined number of those girls plus like any girl since puberty who's ever touched my penis...thats ridiculous. Sorry to sound crass but thats the way it is.

    Certainly some people would include those whom they've had oral sex with as sexual partners persay....but I don't think most people would include something like that if you plainly asked them...."how many people have you had sex with in you life"?
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    (Original post by dcarsten)
    You know I guess everyone has an opinion on this....but in all practical sense for a heterosexual male like myself....More or less the girls I've had sexual intercourse with seem to be the ones that fall into the "sexual partner" category.

    Like if I'm dating someone and they eventually might want to know how many girls I've been with I'm going to come up with the number of girls I've had sexual intercourse with....not a combined number of those girls plus like any girl since puberty who's ever touched my penis...thats ridiculous. Sorry to sound crass but thats the way it is.

    Certainly some people would include those whom they've had oral sex with as sexual partners persay....but I don't think most people would include something like that if you plainly asked them...."how many people have you had sex with in you life"?
    But that isn't the question being asked here so it seems like you've missed the point. Is someone that you have had oral sex with a sexual partner or not in your eyes?
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    (Original post by SmilerNuts)
    yeah, many of my male compadres tend to boast about how girls are willing to give head cause it seems like "what they are meant to do" and when you ask them what they did for the girl in return they just laugha dn look at you like you're an idiot. It's a sad state of affairs and they really don't deserve to be getting head if they don't respect the girls in the first place.
    Yes, you know what I mean but so few girls realise that this is the kind of conversation that goes on between guys. When I hear a girl say "I only do that because I'm not a slut, I don't want to go all the way and that is so less intimate", I think "poor thing, You really haven't got a CLUE what goes on in guys' minds".

    (Original post by SmilerNuts)
    how can oral be more intimate than sex? . True, most of the time you hear girls are more likely to have sex after a few dates than they are to recieve oral but to me, sex is at least on par with oral for intimacy, if not even more so 'cause it's like the "ultimate".
    Well think about it, oral sex has only become standard more recently with popular culture, it's become a lot popular as more and more people have sexual partners before getting married, yet people want to keep their technical "virginity". A hundred years ago, if you asked a married couple if they had ever tried oral sex, many would answer back with disgust that that's absolutely savage and revolting.

    Many countries, that are less American-influenced, do not have the liberal view that we have for oral sex (and bizarrely this liberal view only concerns oral sex on a guy). It's not that oral sex is more "important". Of course these people would agree that sex stands for more but oral sex is a lot about trust, about acceptance of the other, getting close to them. It stands for things that sex might not stand for.

    (Original post by SmilerNuts)
    True, your comparison was disgusting ut it was a fair point to make and well within the theme of discussion. But surely that's only because the kid has less understanding of intimacy than someone who has passed puberty and is having more "normal" sexual experiences. The child just hasn't developed enough to know any better whereas the post-pubescent girl is just being naive in her interpretation of the situation.
    yes but being naive and lack of knowledge go hand in had. Teenagers these days think they know everything about sex, as soon as they have a few conversations joking about sex and when they've seen a few porn websites.
    It's not like we consciously think about this but there's a whole psychology behind sex, sex is as much a mind game/struggle than a physical one.


    (Original post by SmilerNuts)
    I guess there's not a whole lot we can do about what society thinks but i'll just keep on treating women with the respect they deserve and hoep more of them snap out of their bubble worlds about the intimacy of giving and recieving oral
    Good stuff, rep on your way.
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    (Original post by Cowz)
    I don't see how oral sex doesn't lead to penetrative sex to be honest. I've got a sneaking feeling the OP didn't let it lead any further is so she doesn't want to add an extra notch to the bed post, but it's delusional really. You might as well get the satisfaction of having sex and just accept you're a little bit easy.
    Agree with you 100%. I even think that just giving head and not getting anything other than the satisfaction of pleasing someone, is like getting the rough end of the stick (no pun intended). What does the guy have to do? He just gets his satisfaction, doesn't need to meet any performance target, doesn't have to make any effort, unlike if he were having sex and girls actually think that they're being "harsh" on a guy by not having sex, when doing that?!

    Funnily enough, the girls I know who behave like that, are those that don't enjoy sex and haven't learnt to enjoy it and don't realise what they can get out of it so assume that sex is about pleasing a guy and in return, getting his validation and that's all...
 
 
 
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