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Is he a player?

I've met my bf in secondary school yr 11. We are both 16 yrs old and now we go to college but different college, this means we finished gcse and are in first year for college.

My bf asked me out on facebook when we were in yr 11 and we used to be in the same maths class. We used to hang out Together sometimes.

I am really confused, im not sure if i should stay with him or if he even loves me cos he hasnt introduced me to any of his friends except the ones he met through games sites. He has a best friend whos a boy and he hasnt introduced me to him and i haven't spoken to my bf about introducing me to his best friend. My bf's best friend used to go same secondary school as me and my bf and i never used to talk to his best friend.

After gcse we had summer break. Me and my bf dont meet for like months and i know this isn't normal. My bf has joked about having threesome sex with me and my friend isabel. Isabel is my bf's ex and they are still friends, but then my bf told me at the end that he was joking about the threesome sex. I did feel hurt when he mentioned about the threesome but i pretended not to care.

My bf also plays games that involves nudes and that. He has joked to me telling me to send him nudes. My bf has also told me he masturbates and told me that he would like me to give him oral sex. When he talked about me giving him oral, i said we can have sex later on in life and i said im not ready for sex. He didnt pressure me and said alright. My bf told me "let me know if u ever want to have sex, ill bring the condoms"

My bf does tell me he loves me and that. He's always texting me first and that. My bf does ignore me on WhatsApp. Whenever i send my bf messages like "oh, okay or good" he doesnt view my messages or reply but he comes online multiple times and i know this cos ive seen his last seen. My bf knows lots of porn stars and told me that one porn star was hot and this did offend me but i didnt say anything.

Now we are just talking normally, as i am kind of avoiding social media

Is he possibly playing with me?
Lad the bf is a playah leeve him be
well then he's already not your bf and just another friend? or a friend with benefits because he doesn't seem to be more involved with anything other than sex from what you wrote
Reply 3
Why the hell do you want to meet his friends?
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What in the world are you talking about?

People in their late teens are expected to feel sexual desires and want to engage in intimacy and sexual behavior. That doesn't mean they're "playing you". I'm befuddled how you mention masturbation, an almost daily, healthy, even beneficial act that most people do, as something unusual or negative.

If he's loyal to you and if he respects you, your decisions and your wishes, and acts according to that, what exactly is the problem here? If he was only with you for sexual reasons, why would he stay with you once you made it clear that you don't want it?

My impression is that you're quite immature and unable to handle other people as much as you want to be tolerated and understood yourself. Perhaps you need to grow up a bit before you can be in a proper relationship.
Reply 5
Is his name "my bf"?
He is living his life elsewhere chick.

He is trying not to hurt your feelings but inadvertently he is.

Sometimes relationships fizzle out because both people develop and grow in different directions at different times. This sounds like one of those times.

Don't rush to tie yourself down into a relationship at a time in your life when it's a great time to get out and socialise, network, have fun, make your mistakes and generally live life without responsibility.

You should have lots of guys on the go, not trying to tie yourself and another down to each other. Summer's here, get out and have fun!
This sounds like a very immature relationship, if you can even call it a relationship. Are you definitely together?

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