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    Hey guys/girls,

    I would like to pose a situation to both opinions please;
    Okay, so you're in a happy relationship with someone you knew well before you got together. And you both seem really genuinely happy!
    He's been talking to a girl that you know he was talking to before with perhaps intentions of being more than friends and have previously met up under these circumstances...

    Guys - If you're in a relationship, how likely are you to be speaking to another girl regularly whether it be harmless or otherwise?
    Would you consider this often be harmless or in your experience has it been more than that, or perhaps just a craving for the attention?
    Would you still speak to a girl you once had romantic intentions with and how likely is it that this is now just a friendship?

    Girls - Is this a situation that you've experienced? Did it bother you? Did you bring it up and how did it go if you did? Am I being a crazy jealous girlfriend?

    Thanks for all your replies x
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    1. I'm pretty unlikely to be speaking to another person but I know others who will happily maintain contact with other people even in a relationship.

    2. More often than not it is harmless unless it gets to the extent where it comes across as them preferring contact with the other person over you. You need to judge that for yourself, while keeping your insecurities in check.

    3. Yes I'd still speak to the girl I once had romantic intentions with if we've just decided to stay as friends.

    4. There isn't much you can do about it unfortunately. I do agree with you in the sense that if there's too much contact, it starts slipping into emotional energy that could have better been spent in the relationship so I know why it would bother you.
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    (Original post by Tombola)
    1. I'm pretty unlikely to be speaking to another person but I know others who will happily maintain contact with other people even in a relationship.

    2. More often than not it is harmless unless it gets to the extent where it comes across as them preferring contact with the other person over you. You need to judge that for yourself, while keeping your insecurities in check.

    3. Yes I'd still speak to the girl I once had romantic intentions with if we've just decided to stay as friends.

    4. There isn't much you can do about it unfortunately. I do agree with you in the sense that if there's too much contact, it starts slipping into emotional energy that could have better been spent in the relationship so I know why it would bother you.
    Thank you for your reply, I think I might be overthinking something silly! You've helped a lot
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    I speak to girls on/off social media all the time. It's harmless. If I wanna cheat I can plan doing so even if I'm anti social lol I know how to speak to someone and not want to bang them, I'm not some hypersensitive hypersexual person who can't control myself when I see an attractive person, and I don't do small talk anyway so if I'm speaking to another female it's important subject matter probably, however intellectual and not emotional or idle chitchat that leads to me flirting out of boredom. And I refuse to be with someone who gives me grief about silliness like chatting to a bird I have and haven't dated before. But that's just me, dunno.
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    (Original post by 0to100)
    I speak to girls on/off social media all the time. It's harmless. If I wanna cheat I can plan doing so even if I'm anti social lol I know how to speak to someone and not want to bang them, I'm not some hypersensitive hypersexual person who can't control myself when I see an attractive person, and I don't do small talk anyway so if I'm speaking to another female it's important subject matter probably, however intellectual and not emotional or idle chitchat that leads to me flirting out of boredom. And I refuse to be with someone who gives me grief about silliness like chatting to a bird I have and haven't dated before. But that's just me, dunno.
    That's actually really true like, I hate when ppl blame you for like talking to another girl, like there's nothing wrong with it, unless you're like having an inappropriate convo or summat.
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    (Original post by Reachin4TheStars)
    That's actually really true like, I hate when ppl blame you for like talking to another girl, like there's nothing wrong with it, unless you're like having an inappropriate convo or summat.
    I could be talking about "adult stuff" like sexual stuff with another female. That still isn't cheating, unless I talk to her about doing it with her. However I don't really have that kinda convo with random birds anymore lol
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    (Original post by 0to100)
    I could be talking about "adult stuff" like sexual stuff with another female. That still isn't cheating, unless I talk to her about doing it with her. However I don't really have that kinda convo with random birds anymore lol
    Yh exactly what I was tryna say 'Anymore' LMAO
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    I have a few m8s that are lasses. If I had a gf that starting kicking off about me talking to them then I'd have to throw her off the nearest bridge.
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    Talking is fine
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