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    First of all, apologise if my post sounds arrogant or snobbish. I'll take all the blame if any of you are offended.

    My family moved to the UK from a country with totally different culture when I was 17, so I had spent most of my formative years in my home country. I started my A-levels, spoke good English but the first few years was very hard for me culturally. Nevertheless, I started uni last September at 20 (second choice, yay), made good new friends, did uni stuff (going out, getting drunk, tried drugs), joined a sport team and had a good time. I can say I feel at home in the UK now.

    My uni is one of the posh-est in the country but also happens to be in a pretty alternative city: exciting alternative nightlife and culture, graffiti, edgy and creative people. Understandably, there's a significant division between the state school and the public school people, aka posh vs edgy, alternative.

    I came from a privileged family and went to the best school in my home country, then moved to one of the most expensive areas in the UK with my parents but attended a pretty sketchy UK state school (only 30 people in sixth form, 4 of us including me made it to a Russell group uni), so I had a chance to experience both sides of the table. I tried to be as neutral as possible and made friends with everyone at uni but after one year, I can really feel the significant social divide. I feel pressured to make a conscious choice who I want to be next year.

    'Being myself' is not possible as I did not grow up here, and I feel equally connected/detached from both identities due to my conflicting background. What should I do? I'm pretty sure I will settle in the UK after graduating so I think it's necessary to have a solid background, identity and network from now on.
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    First of all, apologise if my post sounds arrogant or snobbish. I'll take all the blame if any of you are offended.

    My family moved to the UK from a country with totally different culture when I was 17, so I had spent most of my formative years in my home country. I started my A-levels, spoke good English but the first few years was very hard for me culturally. Nevertheless, I started uni last September at 20 (second choice, yay), made good new friends, did uni stuff (going out, getting drunk, tried drugs), joined a sport team and had a good time. I can say I feel at home in the UK now.

    My uni is one of the posh-est in the country but also happens to be in a pretty alternative city: exciting alternative nightlife and culture, graffiti, edgy and creative people. Understandably, there's a significant division between the state school and the public school people, aka posh vs edgy, alternative.

    I came from a privileged family and went to the best school in my home country, then moved to one of the most expensive areas in the UK with my parents but attended a pretty sketchy UK state school (only 30 people in sixth form, 4 of us including me made it to a Russell group uni), so I had a chance to experience both sides of the table. I tried to be as neutral as possible and made friends with everyone at uni but after one year, I can really feel the significant social divide. I feel pressured to make a conscious choice who I want to be next year.

    'Being myself' is not possible as I did not grow up here, and I feel equally connected/detached from both identities due to my conflicting background. What should I do? I'm pretty sure I will settle in the UK after graduating so I think it's necessary to have a solid background, identity and network from now on.
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