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    My bf who lives 50 miles away is planning to come over on Friday evening then meet with a mutual friend together for a drink. He was asking if he could stay over since we'll meet at 5pm & he wouldn't really drink if he's driving back, haven't each other for 2 weeks. But my single parent Asian mum won't let him back in April she allowed him to stay over twice & we didn't even sleep beside each other. I've asked her 2 weeks ago as well but she said no too. My mum has a rigid idea that the guy should be the one coming over to the girl, like what her brother did in 1990s. But it's 2016, she wouldn't let him stay for a night so we can spend more together & we only see each other every 2 weeks due to work.

    Any advice would be appreciated!
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    My bf who lives 50 miles away is planning to come over on Friday evening then meet with a mutual friend together for a drink. He was asking if he could stay over since we'll meet at 5pm & he wouldn't really drink if he's driving back, haven't each other for 2 weeks. But my single parent Asian mum won't let him back in April she allowed him to stay over twice & we didn't even sleep beside each other. I've asked her 2 weeks ago as well but she said no too. My mum has a rigid idea that the guy should be the one coming over to the girl, like what her brother did in 1990s. But it's 2016, she wouldn't let him stay for a night so we can spend more together & we only see each other every 2 weeks due to work.

    Any advice would be appreciated!
    Well, I think that u should try to explain to her, because she let him stay before, and it was ok, then really she shouldnt have a problem, try asking her again she may agree
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    Can't he spend time with you but stay at another friend's place?
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    Get a hotel? Job done.

    Tbh telling her you're going to stay in a hotel with him might convince her she's better off letting him crash on the sofa!
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    (Original post by x-bhakti-patel)
    Well, I think that u should try to explain to her, because she let him stay before, and it was ok, then really she shouldnt have a problem, try asking her again she may agree
    After she let him in April, her friends influencing her that it wasn't right to let him sleep over. I guess just convince her over & over. Thanks!
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    (Original post by BristolFresher15)
    Can't he spend time with you but stay at another friend's place?
    Our friend lives in a shared house.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    After she let him in April, her friends influencing her that it wasn't right to let him sleep over. I guess just convince her over & over. Thanks!
    Its ok
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Our friend lives in a shared house.
    Fair enough, why doesn't he just not drink and head back afterwards?

    I mean, you could try to convince your mom, but if it doesn't work there's nothing you can do. But if you really want to see each other, a 50 mile round trip on a weekend shouldn't be that big of a deal.
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    (Original post by Elivercury)
    Get a hotel? Job done.

    Tbh telling her you're going to stay in a hotel with him might convince her she's better off letting him crash on the sofa!
    Good point, but it's unlikely that she'll let me sleep in the hotel with him
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    Good point, but it's unlikely that she'll let me sleep in the hotel with him
    When was it her choice? If she doesn't want you going then there is a simple alternative.
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    (Original post by BristolFresher15)
    Fair enough, why doesn't he just not drink and head back afterwards?

    I mean, you could try to convince your mom, but if it doesn't work there's nothing you can do. But if you really want to see each other, a 50 mile round trip on a weekend shouldn't be that big of a deal.
    He's sensible & doesn't drink at all when he knows he's driving back if not, yeah just let him drive back & forth tnx
 
 
 
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