Hey there, I've been having this problem with my relationship lately. Would be glad if anyone could give an idea what to do
So me and my girlfriend have been together for a year now, but we hardly see eachother. It's not like we're not in love anymore, she's still crazy for me :3
Actually, it's her dad who doesn't allow her to see me. You might ask why? Because he simply hates all his daughters' partners (her older sister had the same problem), even after she told him I'm a well-behaved guy with lots of good grades etc. She's 18 and I'm 19 by the way.
So after his rules, we couldn't meet AT ALL. She's sometimes not even allowed to go out with regular friends, let alone with me. Going to the cinema? Barely possible. Hanging out? Forget it. Watching a DVD in my apartment? Not in a thousand years. This is beyond strict and I can't comprehend it. Still we see eachother about once every two weeks, just she doesn't tell him.
Additionally, she's too afraid to give him her opinion because she wants to avoid any drama at all cost. Her dad seems like the type of person you can't have a reasonable talk with. Moving out is not an option either as that would give her a bad conscience (which I can't understand to be honest).
The situation might look hopeless, but does anyone have an idea about what I could do here? I'm moving to a different city in September because of university, so it might become even harder then ... Thanks for any advice !
gf has an overprotective dad.... oh God Watch
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- 09-06-2016 13:31
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- 09-06-2016 13:43
Perhaps wen and if she moves to Uni then things will become easier?
Is there a culture, ethnic or religious angle?
What about the mother, do you get on well with her?
What about your parents, do they talk to hers?
Btw when you go to uni then ldrs become a whole lot more challenging.
If you can't talk to him and she wont do anything then you are backed into a corner.
Are you even meant to be in contact?
I cant decide what I would do between talk to him (man to man so to speak)or just work with what you have.. Depends which side of bed I got out of and how I gauged him.
- 09-06-2016 13:52
You can't really do much, it's between her and her father.
- 09-06-2016 14:02
EDIT: Misread title as overprotective God and didn't read the OP I'm sorryLast edited by Retired_Messiah; 09-06-2016 at 14:04.
- 09-06-2016 14:06
I mean unless she moves out or stands up for herself there isn't going to be much you can do.
Realistically if you're going long term, this guy might be your father in law, food for thought?