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    do you still stay with them inspite of their losing their looks. as attraction is one of the main points you entered into a relationship. it would be a very bitter pill for me to swallow personally so what do people do in these situations? how do you overcome it??
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    If you are at the point where you married him, you really should of loved him for his personality and not just his looks.
    It really depends on how bearable it is. If it comes to be that on a day-to-day basis, you're finding it unbearable and repulsive then it'd be better for both of you to go different ways.
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    do you still stay with them inspite of their losing their looks. as attraction is one of the main points you entered into a relationship. it would be a very bitter pill for me to swallow personally so what do people do in these situations? how do you overcome it??
    Well you don't Just marry someone for their looks, but if its one of the main points you did you should have never got together in the first place, you do it cause their funny and interesting and weird and mad and aren't boring. Looks are just a bonus, but still deep down even if they lose their attracrion that is still the same person you married x years ago and promised to grow old with. They might look different but just remember its still the same person.

    But if its genuinely all looks for you and you find them stomach churning spare there feeling now before they waste the whole of their lives living with a lustful rat who didn't really care for them for most of their lifetime.
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    I agree that attraction is important - it's the difference between a friend and a boyfriend/girlfriend - the fact that you're attracted to them.

    A lot of people end relationships because they don't find their other half attractive anymore e.g. they stop having sex with them, they may be tempted to cheat, etc...it happens.

    The point I want to make is that if you're in love with someone, it's very true that love is blind. They may not be as attractive as they were when they were 21, they might have grown a gut, cut their hair, grown some wrinkles, but it's the fact that you look past this, and still find them attractive.
 
 
 
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