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    My boyfriend and i are arguing because he thinks he didn't lie, and i think he did.

    He has this friend (lets say Anna). She constantly makes passes at him, talks to him all the time and goes out with him a lot (she also has a bf). Ive told my bf i wasn't keen on this and he said he'd reduce contact with her.

    Anna recently broke up with her bf and wants to go round to my bf's house this week in the middle of the night for a shoulder to cry on. I told my bf i wasn't too happy about it and he said he wouldnt see her, and he thinks he was busy this week anyway. However, the next day he tells me Anna is coming round that night as he is now free

    My point of view is he said he wouldn't see her, regardless of whether he was free or not, he now is seeing her this week. He claims he thought he wouldn't be able to see her, so now that he can, its okay. The argument isn't so much about seeing her, its the "lie". What do you think?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    My boyfriend and i are arguing because he thinks he didn't lie, and i think he did.

    He has this friend (lets say Anna). She constantly makes passes at him, talks to him all the time and goes out with him a lot (she also has a bf). Ive told my bf i wasn't keen on this and he said he'd reduce contact with her.

    Anna recently broke up with her bf and wants to go round to my bf's house this week in the middle of the night for a shoulder to cry on. I told my bf i wasn't too happy about it and he said he wouldnt see her, and he thinks he was busy this week anyway. However, the next day he tells me Anna is coming round that night as he is now free

    My point of view is he said he wouldn't see her, regardless of whether he was free or not, he now is seeing her this week. He claims he thought he wouldn't be able to see her, so now that he can, its okay. The argument isn't so much about seeing her, its the "lie". What do you think?
    I feel like the argument is because you feel jealous that someone else is taking notice of your boyfriend. I recommend just ignoring the situation because then you can see how much your bf cares about your opinion
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    You're being possessive.

    People are allowed to have friends of the opposite sex, if he wanted to cheat or be with her, he would already have no matter what you said.
    Trust him and don't push him away by stopping him having friends.
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    That's not a lie. A lie is him saying he wasn't going to see her, then seeing her, and then you finding out about it. In this instance, it's more that he changed his mind, and he told you that he was going to see her, so it's not a lie at all.

    I think the issue is seeing her, and that is why you'e upset, and I 100% agree, I'd also be asking a lot of questions if I were you. This girl wants to see your boyfriend when she is in the vulnerable state, and he doesn't see why that's a problem? Of course it is. This girl needs to speak to her own friends, and have a girls night or something, not come for "advice" in the middle of the night.
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    Plant cameras and find out what he was up to that night.
 
 
 
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