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Sexual Inexperience

Rainygal

Do guys (or girls) find complete lack of sexual inexperience endearing or not?

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Reply 1

luap

I do, half the fun will be learn!! ha ha.......sex is like pringles, 'once you pop you cant stop' :wink:

Oh man you have so much fun ahead of you!!!

Reply 2

smellielli

Depends on how well you know the other person.

Reply 3

Kate.

Depends if they're willing to learn or not. If they're uncomfortable & awkward then that would probably annoy me. If they're confident & comfortable with me then it's all good.

Reply 4

ßlαcksωαn

I think a bit of inexperience is cute in a guy.

Reply 5

Sammi22

I personally think it's cute, I'd much rather have someone inexperienced than someone who thinks they know it all. :wink:

Reply 6

randomgirl

I'm not bothered, really.

If your bf/gf is unexperienced you have the benefit of being able to teach them things, just the way you like them. :p:

Reply 7

Zoecb

Not endearing, just unfortunate.

Reply 8

luap

randomgirl

I'm not bothered, really.

If your bf/gf is unexperienced you have the benefit of being able to teach them things, just the way you like them. :p:

Yep, cool i like your way of thinking batman.........nice one..ha ha

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

in my experience, everytime I bottled it with a guy due to being scared out of my wits, they haven't looked back since. I'm only 20 and am going to die a virgin from the looks of it.

Reply 10

khil

Anonymous

in my experience, everytime I bottled it with a guy due to being scared out of my wits, they haven't looked back since. I'm only 20 and am going to die a virgin from the looks of it.

Well, those men you were with were clearly not worth it, so it's just as well you didn't lose your virginity to jerks like them. And why is virgnity so much undermined in this society? I'd hate the idea of my husband having had sex with other women before me, and I'm sure he wouldn't like the idea vice versa either. And to be honest, I'd love to experience it, learn and teach such a thing with the man I love.

Besides, virginity in a girl is seen as more "desirable" anyway - more innocent, as far as men are concerned. Stop seeing virginity as a bad thing - it's a natural state of the body, as much as having had sex is as well. It's like thinking something is bad and wrong if someone's single, yet no one would say that - so why virginity?

And I find virginity endearing and more secure. I wouldn't feel confident and secure with someone who has experience, considering I have none. And the idea that someone I love would have experience before me isn't very attractive at all.

Reply 11

amie

irisng

And the idea that someone I love would have experience before me isn't very attractive at all.

So, out of interest, would you say you can't love someone who's not a virgin? Or if the person you love turned out to have had sex with someone else, would you put up with it or not?

Anyway, I talked about this with my current boyfriend not too long ago. He said that he doesn't mind either way, neither is endearing or unattractive, it's all neutral to him. I definitely agree.

Reply 12

nooneimportant

girls should know what to do, or they dont do anything :frown:

Reply 13

grace

Zoecb

Not endearing, just unfortunate.

hahaha, ditto.

i certainly wouldn't see it as a good thing, maybe neutral if he was eager and willing to learn and not selfish. I think there's potential for it to be a not-so-good thing if two peoples' sexual experience is not fairly equally matched, though.

Reply 14

Tag

good points -
automitically makes you the more experienced therefore more at ease, it can be fun teaching people. Besides, every couple has to learn how the other's body works, ok so there is general gender stuff, but every individual has preferences.

bad points -
can be a bit awkward, especially if neither of you know what you are doing, until you are both comfortable with each other.

Reply 15

There is nothing endearing about a woman who just lies there and expects the man to do everything, but hey....we all start somewhere....to be honest...i love it when a woman knows what shes doing.. just so damn sexy.

Reply 16

jazznaz

Girls with little experience are interesting, because their actions are 100% 'them', not a mixture of 'them' and 'what their previous partners liked'. :smile:

Reply 17

Helenia

There is nothing endearing about a woman who just lies there and expects the man to do everything.

That's not necessarily inexperience, that's just bad. Even if you're a virgin you should be able to work out that you're meant to do something rather than just lie there, and enthusiasm can make up a fair bit for lack of skill.

For me, I'm not sure. It's fun to teach people stuff, or to learn together, but starting again from scratch would be a bit dull.

Reply 18

Anonymous #1

Yeah, whilst I recognise the experience will be "dull" and "lacking", I can't neccessarily go into a time machine and lose my virginity when I was 13, now can I? Guess I'll have to like it and lump in, or possibly date jailbait.

Reply 19

Louise88

I don't know, I can see good points for each. Personally, I think I would rather someone was a little inexperienced. I wouldn't mind teaching them new things, helping them learn and such, but they would have to be confident and willing to learn rather than being shy, and awkward.

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