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    why dad keeps forcing me to eat with everyone at iftaar time when I'd rather be alone for two reasons

    1. to not get pissed at everyone and be at peace
    2. to be alone and remember allah etc

    he forces me to eat there and says I get no food if I don't.

    my mum always makes disgusting noises when eating I ****ing hate it. It puts me off my food, it repulses me and it pisses me off. I don't say anything because it's rude to say that to my mum but I am being forced to sit there and wndure this. I don't think it's fair. She clears phlegm in her throat whilst I'm trying to eat, she repeatedly "sniffs" by which I mean you can hear the snot going back up her nose, etc things like this. I can't be the only one to find this disgusting.

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    I was sat there trying to eat. My mum sniffs disgustingly four times in a row. I finally am like "please can you stop sniffing" my dad has a go at me and says stop letting things get to you. Im like okay but can you not I'm trying to eat and you're making me sit here when you know it puts me off I've been fasting all day at least let me live.
    He starts shouting again and lecturing -.- calling me ungrateful (???). Saying I'm messed up in the head and I need to unwrap myself from whatever bubble I'm in (lol), and that I need to "get out more" and experience the real world WHEN HE IS THE ONE THAT STOPS ME FROM THE LEAVING THE HOUSE!!!

    I then say "okay can you please stop talking about this now" calmly, and then he gets proper angry and shouts, I'll translate what he said to eat "shut the hell up, I'm gonna hit you" and basically repeats what he said last paragraph.



    do you think this fair?
    and also opinions on the poll.
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    yo that sounds nasty af... what would she do if you just told her straight?
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    (Original post by splashywill)
    yo that sounds nasty af... what would she do if you just told her straight?
    lol thank you!
    I have told her before that it's disgusting and I get accused of being abnormal and somehow "ungrateful"
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    lol thank you!
    I have told her before that it's disgusting and I get accused of being abnormal and somehow "ungrateful"
    why wouldnt your dad let you do it alone? theres no problem with that...
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    :rofl: poor you
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    Of course it isn't fair, it's borderline abuse.

    Starving you if you don't eat at the table and threatening you, for speaking your mind politely. Completely irrational.
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    Out of all the issues in the world this is actually what's concerning you?
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    haha, oh dear... I feel for you. It sounds like you're going to have to put up with it until you get the opportunity to leave home... or you could do something equally as disgusting as see if they put up with it haha... I dunno what else to suggest sorry
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    (Original post by rcmack)
    why wouldnt your dad let you do it alone? theres no problem with that...
    idk, that's what I thought
    (Original post by fatima1998)
    :rofl: poor you
    it's not funny.it's horrible after I've been fasting all day, I'm considering skipping tomorrow so this **** doesn't affect me.
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    (Original post by Cremated_Spatula)
    Of course it isn't fair, it's borderline abuse.

    Starving you if you don't eat at the table and threatening you, for speaking your mind politely. Completely irrational.
    yes it does sound like abuse... I've always felt sorry for westernised muslim kids living with strict religious parents, completely irrational and quite frankly abusive
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    Out of all the issues in the world this is actually what's concerning you?
    stfu man
    it's usually not an issue because I just leave.
    it's an issue cause it's ramadan, I've not had food all day, and the only time I do I have to go through this. It drives me nuts.

    (Original post by Cremated_Spatula)
    Of course it isn't fair, it's borderline abuse.

    Starving you if you don't eat at the table and threatening you, for speaking your mind politely. Completely irrational.
    exactly :cry2:
    I thought I was being reasonable
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Out of all the issues in the world this is actually what's concerning you?
    its an issue which involves the OP at this very moment if their life so why shouldn't he be worried about it? No point in sitting around wondering how to cure cancer if he's just some kid living with his parents
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    stfu manit's usually not an issue because I just leave.it's an issue cause it's ramadan, I've not had food all day, and the only time I do I have to go through this. It drives me nuts.exactly :cry2:I thought I was being reasonable
    You were being very reasonable and patient imo :console:
    Especially considering the fasting you had been doing, I'd be cranky af if I was that hungry.
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    (Original post by Cremated_Spatula)
    You were being very reasonable and patient imo :console:
    Especially considering the fasting you had been doing, I'd be cranky af if I was that hungry.
    I get moody as hell, but I try not to show it. I say one thing and I get lectured or shouted at. They also go and and say comments which are totally untrue as well or just irrelevant it's so infuriating.

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    yes it does sound like abuse... I've always felt sorry for westernised muslim kids living with strict religious parents, completely irrational and quite frankly abusive
    honestly I never though of it as abuse, only when other people have on here have said it was, it's normal to me but can be quite upsetting sometimes.

    Like yesterday my dad said it was okay for my brother to hit me because I'm not a woman yet and he's not a man, we're "still kids". Apparently, it doesn't matter that it hurts me. I'm gonna be 18 soon anyway so I wonder what he'll say then.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I get moody as hell, but I try not to show it. I say one thing and I get lectured or shouted at. They also go and and say comments which are totally untrue as well or just irrelevant it's so infuriating.



    honestly I never though of it as abuse, only when other people have on here have said it was, it's normal to me but can be quite upsetting sometimes.

    Like yesterday my dad said it was okay for my brother to hit me because I'm not a woman yet and he's not a man, we're "still kids". Apparently, it doesn't matter that it hurts me. I'm gonna be 18 soon anyway so I wonder what he'll say then.
    Everyone gets moody from time to time, it's good that you're considerate enough to try to restrain yourself but bottling things up can have some really negative effects on your health.

    I've experienced that before, most frustrating thing they could possibly do, it's like they want an argument.
 
 
 
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