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    Basically, I told a close friend that I liked him and now we just don't speak. When I told him he said that 'we can still be friends' and I don't know whether I was just being naive but I thought it was okay. We agreed to have distance and after say a couple of months I didn't feel that way for him anymore and tried to reform a friendship with him. Yet it just feels so one-sided with me putting in effort and I almost feel like I'm losing self-respect in doing so. I've invited him out etc and he always has an excuse and we haven't spoken in months. It's just weird, especially after someone I used to see every week and talk to quite a bit seems to now have been completely erased from my life. I feel hurt and confused because all of this has stemmed from me being totally honest when I had been bottling this up for months and it took me so much courage to tell him because I knew the risks of doing so. I don't know what to do- people say forget but that's easier said than done, especially when he was one of my good friends and I don't not want to be friends over something this petty.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Basically, I told a close friend that I liked him and now we just don't speak. When I told him he said that 'we can still be friends' and I don't know whether I was just being naive but I thought it was okay. We agreed to have distance and after say a couple of months I didn't feel that way for him anymore and tried to reform a friendship with him. Yet it just feels so one-sided with me putting in effort and I almost feel like I'm losing self-respect in doing so. I've invited him out etc and he always has an excuse and we haven't spoken in months. It's just weird, especially after someone I used to see every week and talk to quite a bit seems to now have been completely erased from my life. I feel hurt and confused because all of this has stemmed from me being totally honest when I had been bottling this up for months and it took me so much courage to tell him because I knew the risks of doing so. I don't know what to do- people say forget but that's easier said than done, especially when he was one of my good friends and I don't not want to be friends over something this petty.
    You can try to confront him about this, but ultimately, if he's not giving you anything in the friendship then it's going to be very difficultto do anything and not worth the effort. It is very strange.
 
 
 
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