Hey there! Sign in to join this conversationNew here? Join for free
    • Thread Starter
    Offline

    3
    ReputationRep:
    I'm starting university as of October 2016 and have decided that I should commute to my chosen university, which is in my home town. I really don't live far from the uni- it's literally a half an hour ride by bus. The problem is that I know that I might have issues making friends (which is hard for me anyway since I am quiet and NOT a party-girl) as I will be living at home. When I say friends I mean not just class mates- ones you get close to (I know this somewhat depends on the person itself)

    I just wanted to know the experience(s) of some of you commuters? and how you're finding uni in general? Oh and do you think I should attend freshers, or is it just a waste?
    Offline

    2
    ReputationRep:
    I'm not at uni yet - but if I were you staying at the campus from what i've heard is a brilliant experience. You'll still make plenty of friends - just as long as you put yourself out there. You might miss out on certain stuff like the general campus experience and getting closer with people but dont let that put you off. Go to freshers, its a great chance to socialise and meet different people. Ive heard Leicester have got one of the best night scenes

    what course are you planning to study btw?
    Offline

    13
    ReputationRep:
    Most people I know who lived off campus in their first year regretted it because they found it hard to make friends and their uni experience was generally just more boring than those living in halls - I strongly suggest living in halls if possible!

    Definitely go to all the freshers events!!! Like you I was very quiet and didn't party at all before freshers and stepping outside your comfort zone can be a little daunting but it was all worth it!
    • Very Important Poster
    Offline

    21
    ReputationRep:
    Very Important Poster
    Have a look at the schedule, see if there are any events that catch your attention - if there aren't any, don't worry about it.

    I suppose commuting would save you a lot of money so I'd personally go for it, unless you want to get away from home (albeit a short distance away).

    In my second year I commuted on a bus from private accommodation and I got rather impatient with the 30 minute commutes unless I had a book to read or the internet. Not just that, but the buses only came once every half hour as well and not always as scheduled, which was the most annoying bit (the 30 minutes on the bus wasn't bad) so ya know.. it's definitely manageable, but can be annoying at times, especially if you have a lecture at 9am then one at 3am - you either stick it out in the library inbetween or go home, come back and go home again.
    Offline

    3
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by justastudent321)
    I'm starting university as of October 2016 and have decided that I should commute to my chosen university, which is in my home town. I really don't live far from the uni- it's literally a half an hour ride by bus. The problem is that I know that I might have issues making friends (which is hard for me anyway since I am quiet and NOT a party-girl) as I will be living at home. When I say friends I mean not just class mates- ones you get close to (I know this somewhat depends on the person itself)

    I just wanted to know the experience(s) of some of you commuters? and how you're finding uni in general? Oh and do you think I should attend freshers, or is it just a waste?
    I didn't commute but the general opinion was that it was an inconvenience and they wished they would have lived in halls. When you get invited to do something randomly at four in the morning or sit in the corridor chatting all night, it really is a bonding experience. Also your really quiet which may not help. Is there no chance of you living in halls? not even for first year?
    Offline

    3
    ReputationRep:
    My older sister commuted. She had loads of fun, went out often and has made good friends. She was on campus so much people thought she was living in the halls too lol. Honestly, your experience will be what you make it. Living in halls doesnt guarantee an amazing experience and commuting doesn't guarantee a rubbish one.
    But advice: if you can get a car, get one!

    Posted from TSR Mobile
    • Thread Starter
    Offline

    3
    ReputationRep:
    Thank you so much for the replies everyone! I didn't expect this many at all. I know some of you think I should still consider living in halls, but I don't think it's possible for me because of financial issues and family etc. I will definitely try and step out of my comfort zone in terms of socialising and talk to everyone, I will never know till I try - right? Thanks again x
    • Thread Starter
    Offline

    3
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by Dnkz7)
    I'm not at uni yet - but if I were you staying at the campus from what i've heard is a brilliant experience. You'll still make plenty of friends - just as long as you put yourself out there. You might miss out on certain stuff like the general campus experience and getting closer with people but dont let that put you off. Go to freshers, its a great chance to socialise and meet different people. Ive heard Leicester have got one of the best night scenes

    what course are you planning to study btw?
    Thank you for the reply!
    I'm planning on doing International Relations you? (assuming you are planning to go too)

    ps I love Sasuke
    • Very Important Poster
    Online

    19
    Very Important Poster
    What they all suggested you have the following chances to make friends:

    Halls and uni accommodation are the best way imo of meeting and making aquiantances with a lot of new people. Its done really after lectures, when you have meals and at the weekends.

    If financial issues rule you out, then dont worry too much.

    Bond with other course mates.

    Join clubs and societies and hook into other peoples friends networks. You have to make an effort.
    Try and stay on top of your work, so if the opportuniy comes to go out or stay on campus to do soemthing, then you can.

    Half an hour isnt really a serious commute and not much further than some people in student houses will live. Frappe's suggestion of a car would make you popular.
    Dont worry though, just make an effort and dont forget a lot of the people you bon with are just acquaintances, you wnat the ones that last and become genuine friends.
    • Thread Starter
    Offline

    3
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by 999tigger)
    What they all suggested you have the following chances to make friends:

    Halls and uni accommodation are the best way imo of meeting and making aquiantances with a lot of new people. Its done really after lectures, when you have meals and at the weekends.

    If financial issues rule you out, then dont worry too much.

    Bond with other course mates.

    Join clubs and societies and hook into other peoples friends networks. You have to make an effort.
    Try and stay on top of your work, so if the opportuniy comes to go out or stay on campus to do soemthing, then you can.

    Half an hour isnt really a serious commute and not much further than some people in student houses will live. Frappe's suggestion of a car would make you popular.
    Dont worry though, just make an effort and dont forget a lot of the people you bon with are just acquaintances, you wnat the ones that last and become genuine friends.
    Such a concise way of thinking- I worry too much ahaha . This is really helpful, thank you very much. I shall keep this in mind.
    • Very Important Poster
    Online

    19
    Very Important Poster
    (Original post by justastudent321)
    Such a concise way of thinking- I worry too much ahaha . This is really helpful, thank you very much. I shall keep this in mind.
    Try and avoid sloping off back home as soon as lectures are over, eating in the canteen, the bar and hanging about on campus is good.

    Figure out whether a packed lunch is viable.

    Have a look at your student uni website and see which societies it has you are interested in. You will probably join too many, but the key is to find some that you are interested in and then keep going to them, whilst you get over the awkward period of not knowing people.

    Figure out what time the last buses home are.
    • Thread Starter
    Offline

    3
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by 999tigger)
    Try and avoid sloping off back home as soon as lectures are over, eating in the canteen, the bar and hanging about on campus is good.

    Figure out whether a packed lunch is viable.

    Have a look at your student uni website and see which societies it has you are interested in. You will probably join too many, but the key is to find some that you are interested in and then keep going to them, whilst you get over the awkward period of not knowing people.

    Figure out what time the last buses home are.
    Aahh such a good way of thinking, I will most definitely do this!! thank you again
    • Very Important Poster
    Online

    19
    Very Important Poster
    The only other thing I have to add is searhc for similar questions on TSR or speak to students who feel they have not made friends and learn from where they think they went wrong.

    Oh and finally why not put an add up or find out a way of contacting other students who are commuting as well, then you have something in common? You might be able to advertise on the student union website?
    Offline

    2
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by justastudent321)
    Thank you for the reply!
    I'm planning on doing International Relations you? (assuming you are planning to go too)

    ps I love Sasuke
    I see you're interested in K-POP too.. I only started watching BTS recently anyhow I want to do Computing at Leicester hopefully. Im planning to get next year though.

    What put you off getting accommodation in the first place? Was family one of the reasons? Sorry if I sound quite pushy just dont let things like that ruin your uni experience.
    • Thread Starter
    Offline

    3
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by Dnkz7)
    I see you're interested in K-POP too.. I only started watching BTS recently anyhow I want to do Computing at Leicester hopefully. Im planning to get next year though.

    What put you off getting accommodation in the first place? Was family one of the reasons? Sorry if I sound quite pushy just dont let things like that ruin your uni experience.
    Ahaha yes I am. Kpop has ruined my life for a few years now- once your in there's no way out. BTS are amazing, I only got into them last year when they started getting popular but I remember when they debuted.
    omg I have heard of quite a few people are going into comupting/ic and other related courses it sounds interesting.

    Oh it's ok you don't sound pushy at all and yeah family is one reason and so is financial stuff- it wasn't like I was super eager to accommodate in the first place, it was discussed but I am ok with it really.
    Offline

    2
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by justastudent321)
    Ahaha yes I am. Kpop has ruined my life for a few years now- once your in there's no way out. BTS are amazing, I only got into them last year when they started getting popular but I remember when they debuted.
    omg I have heard of quite a few people are going into comupting/ic and other related courses it sounds interesting.

    Oh it's ok you don't sound pushy at all and yeah family is one reason and so is financial stuff- it wasn't like I was super eager to accommodate in the first place, it was discussed but I am ok with it really.
    Any societies in particular that you want to join?
    Offline

    15
    ReputationRep:
    I commuted 90 miles to undergrad.

    Negatives
    a. make study time count as you will use up a lit of your time travelling that others might use for study.
    b. you will miss out on communal living
    c. there will be social activities you might not be able to join in with

    Positives:
    a. I was able to crash at friend's houses if I wanted to go out with them and it was a nice balance, I only ever socialised when I wanted it. I had my own home and space to retreat to.
    b. I had discipline and learned to manage my time really well
    c. I had a lovely home that would have been twice the price and unaffordable if I lived any closer to London.
    • Thread Starter
    Offline

    3
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by Dnkz7)
    Any societies in particular that you want to join?
    hmmm idk
    Offline

    19
    ReputationRep:
    Half an hour may not sound like allot but think a bit this when is the First last bus you will be constrained public transport and where as that is not usually a problem at school collage you can get lessons from 7am to 9 / 10 at night (a guy on my halls that he did film had that but the lesson was just watching a movie) also freshers week bring s allot of people out of there shells i have seen really shy people get to the first bar order a drink and then bam life of the party. Also that half hour traveling can be better spent studying also group projects there may be nights where you have to stay late in the libery how will you get home if you miss the bus live out mate
 
 
 
  • See more of what you like on The Student Room

    You can personalise what you see on TSR. Tell us a little about yourself to get started.

  • Poll
    Would you like to hibernate through the winter months?
    Useful resources
  • See more of what you like on The Student Room

    You can personalise what you see on TSR. Tell us a little about yourself to get started.

  • The Student Room, Get Revising and Marked by Teachers are trading names of The Student Room Group Ltd.

    Register Number: 04666380 (England and Wales), VAT No. 806 8067 22 Registered Office: International House, Queens Road, Brighton, BN1 3XE

    Quick reply
    Reputation gems: You get these gems as you gain rep from other members for making good contributions and giving helpful advice.