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    When my ex ended things I blocked him from all communication so I never got an explaination. I recently unblocked him and messaged him. He explained he had really liked me but felt he had to end things because he knew we were too different for it to work long term.
    We were different people. I was very sociable and had a lot of friends whilst he was painfully shy most of the time. We also had different tastes in a lot of things. But I never thought to end it because of that. I thought I liked him and I don't care about these differences.
    So when he gave this as the reason I took it as a personal attack.

    How would you feel?
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    When my ex ended things I blocked him from all communication so I never got an explaination. I recently unblocked him and messaged him. He explained he had really liked me but felt he had to end things because he knew we were too different for it to work long term.
    We were different people. I was very sociable and had a lot of friends whilst he was painfully shy most of the time. We also had different tastes in a lot of things. But I never thought to end it because of that. I thought I liked him and I don't care about these differences.
    So when he gave this as the reason I took it as a personal attack.

    How would you feel?
    Insecurities man, it sucks I know. Bite the bullet and move on, plenty of lads waiting.
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    So when he gave this as the reason I took it as a personal attack.
    Well.. that is a mistake on your part. If I'm honest, I can't see how you've got there. Well, I can see how you've got there actually, you said that you don't really understand things from his perspective, or things that were troubling him didn't trouble you so you can't really see what's going on, which is why you've got there.

    From the point of view from a shy person, it can be difficult to engage someone who is extroverted, and you know, talking about things and making conversations can be quite difficult at times, especially if you do it frequently. Also, someone who's fairly sociable is always out doing things, you know, and has like new life experiences etc to talk about whereas someone on the shy side.. maybe not as much.

    But you also should never have unblocked him or messaged him, and never should. Otherwise you'll never get over him, or stop feeling upset, or angry, or any of those things.
 
 
 
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