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    I met a guy who I liked but I feel is very socially awkward. He seems shy but we have spoken a few times and got on well. As time has gone on his behaviour has knocked my confidence. He will stare at me from across the room. When I speak to him, a few minutes later he will say he is going to speak to someone else.

    One time we both told each other we liked each other but his excuse was I should have snapped him up a long time ago and that all I have is my looks. I have no idea when the opportunity of snapping him up was he never actually told me he liked me or asked me out. I felt angry as I do not go around flaunting myself and him insulting me about my looks is saying I am not relationship material. He made it worse rejecting me and then said straight after he still liked me.

    Various occasions he will promise mutual friends he is coming out then doesn't turn up or let anyone know and when he does come it is for an hour and then he disappears without saying goodbye. I am sick and tired of getting my hopes up.

    People tell me I am pretty girl and said this may intimidate him. This guy makes me feel worthless with the staring, confessions of liking me but then insulting me. I don't understand is if he was that bothered about me then why is he on match.com. Does this seem like mind games liking the attention or could he have issues?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I met a guy who I liked but I feel is very socially awkward. He seems shy but we have spoken a few times and got on well. As time has gone on his behaviour has knocked my confidence. He will stare at me from across the room. When I speak to him, a few minutes later he will say he is going to speak to someone else.

    One time we both told each other we liked each other but his excuse was I should have snapped him up a long time ago and that all I have is my looks. I have no idea when the opportunity of snapping him up was he never actually told me he liked me or asked me out. I felt angry as I do not go around flaunting myself and him insulting me about my looks is saying I am not relationship material. He made it worse rejecting me and then said straight after he still liked me.

    Various occasions he will promise mutual friends he is coming out then doesn't turn up or let anyone know and when he does come it is for an hour and then he disappears without saying goodbye. I am sick and tired of getting my hopes up.

    People tell me I am pretty girl and said this may intimidate him. This guy makes me feel worthless with the staring, confessions of liking me but then insulting me. I don't understand is if he was that bothered about me then why is he on match.com. Does this seem like mind games liking the attention or could he have issues?
    I've been in a similar situation to you, I can totally relate.

    But basically this guy is VERY INSECURE ABOUT HIMSELF. These type of people will do anything to knock a persons confidence down, as he's already done to you.

    Match.com? It sounds like he's desperate too, and attention seeking.

    Honestly he sounds pathetic and you can do so much better. He is INSECURE and doesn't value himself. Loser.
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    Yeah I agree. He's clearly very insecure and feels the need to lash out at you as a result.

    Personally I'd just cut him out of my life and say he's gotten his wish. Don't let him damage your confidence, there is nothing wrong with being pretty and I'm sure there is plenty more to you. He clearly just feels he isn't as attractive so needs to try and feel superior in other areas.
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    So is he the type of person who would struggle to express himself and then be verbally abusive everytime something did not go his way?
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    So is he the type of person who would struggle to express himself and then be verbally abusive everytime something did not go his way?
    Probably, but you know him better than us.

    I mean, I wouldn't try to psychoanalyse him, I'd just dump him and move on. You can clearly do better and frankly if you did continue this "relationship" I imagine it would turn into an abusive one.
 
 
 
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