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    Well me and this girl met when I was home for xmas from working abroad after graduating. We clicked off straight away and had soo much in common. To cut a long story short when I came home we started dating until it all ended suddenly around her exam time. After that we kept in contact and went to the same church etc etc... After a while I asked her out for a coffee to chat about things. She said we wasnt too sure what was happening with us but she thinks she would like to give it another go.

    The a week later she texts me saying she does not have the same feelings for me anymore like she used to but still cares for me and wants to remain friends as she wants to continue to get to know me better. I really do not know what to do at the minute. I still have these crazy feelings for her and she suggested that I help out at a summer scheme that she is doing this summer. We share a number of mutual friends and are still connected via social media etc etc....

    Guys/Girls have use any tips which might help a guy out??
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    Well me and this girl met when I was home for xmas from working abroad after graduating. We clicked off straight away and had soo much in common. To cut a long story short when I came home we started dating until it all ended suddenly around her exam time. After that we kept in contact and went to the same church etc etc... After a while I asked her out for a coffee to chat about things. She said we wasnt too sure what was happening with us but she thinks she would like to give it another go.

    The a week later she texts me saying she does not have the same feelings for me anymore like she used to but still cares for me and wants to remain friends as she wants to continue to get to know me better. I really do not know what to do at the minute. I still have these crazy feelings for her and she suggested that I help out at a summer scheme that she is doing this summer. We share a number of mutual friends and are still connected via social media etc etc....

    Guys/Girls have use any tips which might help a guy out??
    At this stage, you either have to try and get her interested (personally I wouldn't, and just take no for an answer here) or cut contact for a while. The worst thing to do is the bit inbetween, where you try to stay friends as agreed and try to win her back slowly or sweep your feelings under the carpet - it doesn't work.

    It's up to you what you want to do, but just know that you can't be friends with her if you have feelings for her, and it's not good to just cling on to the friendship and think that you would prefer that to blocking off contact - because if you did block her, trust me, your feelings will go away after a while.
 
 
 
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