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Reply 1
Okay...your life is way too complex
Reply 2
18
Simplify, man, simplify.
Anyway, after reading all of that, I think you should
1. Keep calling her to apologise, text her, or go to her house and explain that you didn't know what you were doing, it was the alcohol, and you're very very sorry. Explain to her that you'll understand if she can't forgive you, but that you're very apologetic and would do whatever it takes to make it up to her. Buy her something, maybe.
2. If I were you, I'd apologise to whoever you offended at your ball - your friends, your teachers (especially your French and Politics teachers). Explain to them that you were rather drunk and didn't mean whatever you said - try to make amends.
Correct me if I'm wrong, this judgement is solely based on what you've written above.. but it seems to me like she's not three-times heartbroken by you. If she were, she'd probably not be friends with you. Three times heartbroken? She'd probably be in too much pain to be friends with you. Maybe she's overexaggerating. I don't know. But if you want to stay her friend, apologise and prepare to grovel - a lot.
Hope this helps
Anyway, after reading all of that, I think you should
1. Keep calling her to apologise, text her, or go to her house and explain that you didn't know what you were doing, it was the alcohol, and you're very very sorry. Explain to her that you'll understand if she can't forgive you, but that you're very apologetic and would do whatever it takes to make it up to her. Buy her something, maybe.
2. If I were you, I'd apologise to whoever you offended at your ball - your friends, your teachers (especially your French and Politics teachers). Explain to them that you were rather drunk and didn't mean whatever you said - try to make amends.
Correct me if I'm wrong, this judgement is solely based on what you've written above.. but it seems to me like she's not three-times heartbroken by you. If she were, she'd probably not be friends with you. Three times heartbroken? She'd probably be in too much pain to be friends with you. Maybe she's overexaggerating. I don't know. But if you want to stay her friend, apologise and prepare to grovel - a lot.
Hope this helps
Reply 3
Democracy
Okay...your life is way too complex
Agreed.
shakirac
Simplify, man, simplify
I'll try harder next time.
Reply 4
Leave it until the edge of that night wears away, she probably doesn't want to think of her friend acting that way then perhaps meet up for a chat and a cup of tea.
Everyone does silly things when they are pissed, although I'm not sure what your mate was on about kissing her when you were laid down with them
Everyone does silly things when they are pissed, although I'm not sure what your mate was on about kissing her when you were laid down with them
Reply 5
Bubblebee
Leave it until the edge of that night wears away, she probably doesn't want to think of her friend acting that way then perhaps meet up for a chat and a cup of tea.
Everyone does silly things when they are pissed, although I'm not sure what your mate was on about kissing her when you were laid down with them
Everyone does silly things when they are pissed, although I'm not sure what your mate was on about kissing her when you were laid down with them
Neither am I.
Reply 6
18
^ Read the edited comment
Reply 7
holy ****! how long did that take to write??
ok maybe give her some space to cool off cause it's likely she's pretty pissed off at you and if you've heard nothing in a couple of days then arrange to meet her somewhere or go round to her house and apologise face to face, explain it wont happen again etc. You're just gonna have to ignore your feelings for her unless she makes it clear later on that she is interested though if you've gone out with someone 3 times already there's always gonna be a spark between you two. can i ask why exactly you dumped her and how long these relationships lasted for?
oh and drink less in future
ok maybe give her some space to cool off cause it's likely she's pretty pissed off at you and if you've heard nothing in a couple of days then arrange to meet her somewhere or go round to her house and apologise face to face, explain it wont happen again etc. You're just gonna have to ignore your feelings for her unless she makes it clear later on that she is interested though if you've gone out with someone 3 times already there's always gonna be a spark between you two. can i ask why exactly you dumped her and how long these relationships lasted for?
oh and drink less in future
Reply 8
Im guessing she's pretty freaked out atm mate, she made it REALLY clear that she didnt want you "like that" (sorry to put it bluntly), and still u text her about taking her to bed. Sure it was a drunken mistake, but it will ultimately mean that she will be VERY reserved around you from now on, so as to make sure anything she says/does isnt taken the wrong way.
You need to brush up on "friends" aspect of ur relationship; sure its not what you want, but its really that or nothing. My advice would be to send her one final text telling her this, that even tho u cant be together, she's too important to not have in ur life at all, also that ur behaviour was unacceptable last nite.
Having done this, you'd hope she may go some way to forgiving you, and then u need to give her some space. You need to show her that ur capable of just being her friend. The only way ull get over ur feelings is to create some distance, so dont text her everytime u get the urge etc, just let things blow over
You need to brush up on "friends" aspect of ur relationship; sure its not what you want, but its really that or nothing. My advice would be to send her one final text telling her this, that even tho u cant be together, she's too important to not have in ur life at all, also that ur behaviour was unacceptable last nite.
Having done this, you'd hope she may go some way to forgiving you, and then u need to give her some space. You need to show her that ur capable of just being her friend. The only way ull get over ur feelings is to create some distance, so dont text her everytime u get the urge etc, just let things blow over
Reply 9
14
what you should do? dont get drunk.
Reply 10
SmilerNuts
holy ****! how long did that take to write??
ok maybe give her some space to cool off cause it's likely she's pretty pissed off at you and if you've heard nothing in a couple of days then arrange to meet her somewhere or go round to her house and apologise face to face, explain it wont happen again etc. You're just gonna have to ignore your feelings for her unless she makes it clear later on that she is interested though if you've gone out with someone 3 times already there's always gonna be a spark between you two. can i ask why exactly you dumped her and how long these relationships lasted for?
oh and drink less in future
ok maybe give her some space to cool off cause it's likely she's pretty pissed off at you and if you've heard nothing in a couple of days then arrange to meet her somewhere or go round to her house and apologise face to face, explain it wont happen again etc. You're just gonna have to ignore your feelings for her unless she makes it clear later on that she is interested though if you've gone out with someone 3 times already there's always gonna be a spark between you two. can i ask why exactly you dumped her and how long these relationships lasted for?
oh and drink less in future
About 30 mins, although I had to break in between for pasta.
First time: Just got over a serious relationship; 1 month.
Second time: Led her on on a drunken night; she was very excited and thought it was more than it was; 1 night, lol.
Third time: Having conviced her I would stick at it, I couldn't hack another serious relationship just yet; 2 weeks.
I was bang out of order to her. To be honest, I felt like I could pick her up and let her go as I pleased. I can't believe that was my mentality, but the rpevious relationship I had left me a very bitter and angry person!
Reply 11
right88
Im guessing she's pretty freaked out atm mate, she made it REALLY clear that she didnt want you "like that" (sorry to put it bluntly), and still u text her about taking her to bed. Sure it was a drunken mistake, but it will ultimately mean that she will be VERY reserved around you from now on, so as to make sure anything she says/does isnt taken the wrong way.
You need to brush up on "friends" aspect of ur relationship; sure its not what you want, but its really that or nothing. My advice would be to send her one final text telling her this, that even tho u cant be together, she's too important to not have in ur life at all, also that ur behaviour was unacceptable last nite.
Having done this, you'd hope she may go some way to forgiving you, and then u need to give her some space. You need to show her that ur capable of just being her friend. The only way ull get over ur feelings is to create some distance, so dont text her everytime u get the urge etc, just let things blow over
You need to brush up on "friends" aspect of ur relationship; sure its not what you want, but its really that or nothing. My advice would be to send her one final text telling her this, that even tho u cant be together, she's too important to not have in ur life at all, also that ur behaviour was unacceptable last nite.
Having done this, you'd hope she may go some way to forgiving you, and then u need to give her some space. You need to show her that ur capable of just being her friend. The only way ull get over ur feelings is to create some distance, so dont text her everytime u get the urge etc, just let things blow over
I can deal with the truth. You're advice is very good and valid, as well as SmilerNuts's advice.
Reply 12
You will all be repped, I can only do 1 a day though.
Reply 13
Depends if she thinks you're likely to pull something like this again...if she does, you'll have to really start grovelling to persuade her you won't...this probably isn't what you'd want to hear but perhaps not getting completely smashed, just merrily tipsy would limit your opportunities to act like a fool...
Reply 14
spartakist
Depends if she thinks you're likely to pull something like this again...if she does, you'll have to really start grovelling to persuade her you won't...this probably isn't what you'd want to hear but perhaps not getting completely smashed, just merrily tipsy would limit your opportunities to act like a fool...
Agreed.
Reply 15
honestly dont worry bout the rep mate, just make sure u do the right thing and keep this girl in ur life, cuz its rare you feel so strongly about someone. You obviously seem close, and hey if you remain friends, never say never and all that, but i wouldnt pin ur hopes on it.
Oh and some more advice....go watch 40 year old virgin, for no reason other than to realise that ur relationship probs arent as big as some! And...its a funny as hell film!
Oh and some more advice....go watch 40 year old virgin, for no reason other than to realise that ur relationship probs arent as big as some! And...its a funny as hell film!
Reply 16
lol 40 year old virgin is a legendary film! and right88 - don't ever turn down rep, no matter how small it may be!
woop! SmilerNuts finally gave some good advice, i will be quoting that in future .
Ok back to business. If you want the thruth then i totally understand why she doesn't want you like that. You've hurt her way too much and after 3 chances it's really up to you to prove to her somehow that you're now ready for a serious relationship (if you are? though i can't see it becoming serious in 2 weeks myself...) and that you know what you want and that's her. But all that is gonna take time so just concentrate on building up your friendship slowly and naturally first, get as close as possible and see how she's feeling but do it subtley. And make sure you don't let past relationships screw up your new ones in future, that just lets your ex win mate
woop! SmilerNuts finally gave some good advice, i will be quoting that in future
.Ok back to business. If you want the thruth then i totally understand why she doesn't want you like that. You've hurt her way too much and after 3 chances it's really up to you to prove to her somehow that you're now ready for a serious relationship (if you are? though i can't see it becoming serious in 2 weeks myself...) and that you know what you want and that's her. But all that is gonna take time so just concentrate on building up your friendship slowly and naturally first, get as close as possible and see how she's feeling but do it subtley. And make sure you don't let past relationships screw up your new ones in future, that just lets your ex win mate
Reply 17
Wow. Well, now she knows how you feel. And leave it for a bit, but dont ignore her, and after like a week invite her round and apologise in person and just have a chat about it and then get back to normal.
If you don't let it change your friendship, then it hopefully wont.
Also, you live really near me! I live slap bang in the middle of Portsmouth and Southampton, in Fareham-ish. And I love John Lewis
. Just out of interest, what college did you go to? Don't have to answer if you don't want to.
If you don't let it change your friendship, then it hopefully wont.
Also, you live really near me! I live slap bang in the middle of Portsmouth and Southampton, in Fareham-ish. And I love John Lewis
. Just out of interest, what college did you go to? Don't have to answer if you don't want to.Reply 18
17
ouch !! thats one messed up night you had...sorry that isnt helping..ok ummm well the only thing you can do is give her time...you said she was a good friend so I'm assuming she knows you better than to judge you on what you said and done while you were drunk!!
Also, the fact you have been with her three times means there is defo chemistry there and chances are she won't want to lose a friend over one drunk night !!
I would keep your feelings to yourself too, unless she shows interest in you, I wouldn't think it a good idea to try and push things again as so far she has made it clear she respects you as a friend.
Good luck and try not to worry about it, people have been in worse situations ohh btw drink less in the future !!
Also, the fact you have been with her three times means there is defo chemistry there and chances are she won't want to lose a friend over one drunk night !!
I would keep your feelings to yourself too, unless she shows interest in you, I wouldn't think it a good idea to try and push things again as so far she has made it clear she respects you as a friend.
Good luck and try not to worry about it, people have been in worse situations ohh btw drink less in the future !!
Reply 19
18
Grovel 
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