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    Hey everyone, just wanted some adviceI'm 18, and it's my friends 19th birthday soon and loads of people from our college are going to her party and out clubbing after My boyfriend has never approved of me going out with friends or drinking, but I really want to go.Everything i bring it up he gets angry and changes the subject. I know that he'll try to make me feel bad on the night of the party.Advice?
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    What is his problem?
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    (Original post by Tiger Rag)
    What is his problem?
    He just disappproves of people going out drinking, and doesn't like me doing it. He doesn't like anyone I like. I get scared every time someone takes a picture at a party in case he'll accuse me of being too close to someone he doesn't like, because he'll be nasty. I feel like I can't go out and let my hair down
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    He just disappproves of people going out drinking, and doesn't like me doing it. He doesn't like anyone I like. I get scared every time someone takes a picture at a party in case he'll accuse me of being too close to someone he doesn't like, because he'll be nasty. I feel like I can't go out and let my hair down
    that is controlling and abusive behaviour

    a supportive partner would respect your friends even if they didn't like them and wouldn't have an issue with you drinking/partying even if they didn't like it... you certainly should never feel scared of your partner's reaction to you doing somethign totally normal
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    You need to sit and have a chat with him, for him doing such things is not okay, even though you're together, you are not his marionette and should not let him treat you like one. Relationships should be based on trust from both sides, yet he seems to lack it so maybe he's not the right fit for you? How long have you been together? Does he go out with his friends and stuff?
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    Girl, live your life.


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