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    It's becoming a real problem in my relationship, well I think it is but he doesn't. He's done nothing wrong except be honest with me and my insecurities are what blew it out of all proportion.
    How do you deal with low self-confidence and insecurity? I've not felt attractive since I was about 12 and started thinking I needed to be "attractive" and it's deeply ingrained in me because of this. It's not a case of him saying "oh she's pretty" and me thinking she's going to have him and he'll cheat because I trust him completely. It's more the fact that I want him to be honest and tell me who he thinks is attractive, in a way I like discussing it, but I NEED to sort out myself first. The problem is me and I know that. How do you go about it when it's not a case of "oh she's prettier than me but I'm still okay" and more that I honestly don't believe I am at all attractive in ANY way and don't understand why he's with me.
    (Probably not helped by when he told me this girl he used to like had a better body and he didn't like the size of my stomach, but I needed to hear it).
    Please don't tell me to "get over it" or that guys will find other girls more attractive because I know and I am fine with that. I KNOW the issue is me.
    Thank you!
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    It's becoming a real problem in my relationship, well I think it is but he doesn't. He's done nothing wrong except be honest with me and my insecurities are what blew it out of all proportion.
    How do you deal with low self-confidence and insecurity? I've not felt attractive since I was about 12 and started thinking I needed to be "attractive" and it's deeply ingrained in me because of this. It's not a case of him saying "oh she's pretty" and me thinking she's going to have him and he'll cheat because I trust him completely. It's more the fact that I want him to be honest and tell me who he thinks is attractive, in a way I like discussing it, but I NEED to sort out myself first. The problem is me and I know that. How do you go about it when it's not a case of "oh she's prettier than me but I'm still okay" and more that I honestly don't believe I am at all attractive in ANY way and don't understand why he's with me.
    (Probably not helped by when he told me this girl he used to like had a better body and he didn't like the size of my stomach, but I needed to hear it).
    Please don't tell me to "get over it" or that guys will find other girls more attractive because I know and I am fine with that. I KNOW the issue is me.
    Thank you!
    I'm in the same boat, but it's less socially acceptable when you're a guy I must admit. You're seen as a wussy and are told to get over yourself. My parents seem to be aware of my "issues" but the only advice they seem to give is to get out and socialise. But what they don't seem to realise is that's precisely the problem. My lack of self confidence stems from annoying social awkwardness as well as other things. So to answer the question, I don't "deal" with it. I'm kinda forced to accept it at the moment. But hey, chin up.
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    Fake it till you make it.
    There is a TED talk about it but I am on phone so you should probably Google it.
 
 
 
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