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    Throughout high school, I have been a quiet, shy, anti social individual. At one point however I went out almost every day in that summer (around year 9) and I miss going out.

    Before, I wondered why all my 'friends' (who I have realized are only realized are only acquaintances) didn't invite me to go out and I have realized why, (the above) mainly because I spend so much time in my room on my computer (ironic because I'm posting this using my computer). But I was liked by everyone in my school and wasn't really hated (except the anti social chavs) which is what confused me so much.

    So now I am starting fresh at a friendly, high performing college, I want to be socially accepted by people but I am worried I'll just go down the same path of being that shy person again.

    Then again, people will probably think I'm some freak taking Maths, Further Maths, Economics and Chemistry and automatically assume I am weird and therefore won't want to socialize with me.
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    This is kinda creepy for me to read this as I've had virtually the exact same life as you have. I was at my most 'popular' through year 9-11. Now, 3 years on, I spend 80% of my time at my computer and barely know anyone outside of my online friends.

    My advice would be to work on your confidence and try to put yourself out there as much as you can, there will be a lot of people in the same boat as you so just go and talk to people, socialize, hang about in your college's canteen or rec room and get to know people! The main thing I would say is to keep trying to make friends and try not to cling to the few you might know that go to that college. I did the same through sixth-form and when they all left (I took a year to retake) I was left with nobody as I stuck with the people I already knew. Even if you make new friends, keep trying to make more and things will go from there! You'll meet your friend's friends and so on.

    Good luck pal! o7
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    I'm in the same boat! I'm taking the same A-levels as you too, except Physics instead of Economics. I don't really think that'll really affect our social lives though, people won't judge you for nerdy subjects; especially at a high performing college. Chances are you'll find loads of people like you, maybe even in your classes, to hang out with. I think I'm going to try to be more confident and talkative, as I haven't been very social at all for the past few years.

    And if all else fails, we'll still have the Internet.


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    Same situation as me lmao. People find me creepy cuz I do the same subjects as you (physics instead of chemistry though). However, since you're going to a high performing college then there will be bound to be people like you. Don't worry about it too much. I don't have many friends who are like me but its nice to socialise and befriend people that are different to you
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Throughout high school, I have been a quiet, shy, anti social individual. At one point however I went out almost every day in that summer (around year 9) and I miss going out.

    Before, I wondered why all my 'friends' (who I have realized are only realized are only acquaintances) didn't invite me to go out and I have realized why, (the above) mainly because I spend so much time in my room on my computer (ironic because I'm posting this using my computer). But I was liked by everyone in my school and wasn't really hated (except the anti social chavs) which is what confused me so much.

    So now I am starting fresh at a friendly, high performing college, I want to be socially accepted by people but I am worried I'll just go down the same path of being that shy person again.

    Then again, people will probably think I'm some freak taking Maths, Further Maths, Economics and Chemistry and automatically assume I am weird and therefore won't want to socialize with me.
    It sounds like you suffer from low self-confidence. I do too. Work on loving yourself first.

    The fact that you are at a high performing college means you will be surrounded by lots of academics, just like you.
 
 
 
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