Hi guys - as the title suggests. Some background information is below. Any advice would be really appreciated, particularly from people who have been in similar situations before.
I'm a 23 year old guy who has never really bothered much with dating, and I've recently been dating a 22 year old girl. The first couple of times we went home together she seemed quite reluctant to have sex, which I was totally OK with and I didn't want to pressure her into anything. Then the next time she said it was her time of the month, which again I totally understood.
The fourth time we went home together we were making out and I tried to take things further, but she grabbed my hand and stopped me. She looked really upset and when I asked what was wrong she told me she'd had some trouble "down there" recently while on holidays and went to a doctor abroad, who said it looked a lot like genital herpes. They didn't give her a test though, and when she got back to the UK she did a test, but by then the symptoms had gone and the test result came back negative.
I was a bit shocked, but I was reluctant to say anything in the heat of the moment because she's such an amazing girl and I was getting along so well with her, so we just cuddled for the rest of the evening. We've kept chatting and have seen each other a few times since, but haven't had sex yet (she's given me quite a few hand jobs though). In total I've seen her about 8 times and we've been chatting almost every day for a couple of months.
We went home together last night and made out for ages but didn't have sex. We were chatting about our feelings - we're both crazy about each other and from what she said, if I asked her to be my girlfriend I'm pretty sure she'd say yes. We're both recent grads and have both got good jobs in London, so I honestly could see myself spending my future with her.
The only issue is that she probably has herpes, and if I have sex with her it's pretty likely I'll get it too. Should I just end things with her and find someone who doesn't have an STD? My concern if I do this is that I'll never find anyone else like her (she's by far the nicest girl I've ever met). On the other hand, if I have a relationship with her I'll probably get herpes, and if the relationship ends (let's face it, the chances are that it will end at some point in the future) I'll have to tell every new girl I meet that I have herpes for the rest of my life.
The logical person inside me tells me to end things with her, but my heart tells me that she's amazing and to have a relationship with her. Has anyone got any advice?