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    Hello, prior to my exams beginning this summer a member of my immediate family had been suffering from depression, but we didnt think it was as bad as it turned out to be, until I caught the person whilst they were cutting their wrists. This happened after my second exam of the summer. Since then I have been extremely worried for them and I missed my A2 english exam which came a day after it happened, but I went to all the ones that came after it. I am on a gap year and was retaking these exams in the hope that I could better my grades and get into my preferred uni, but after what happened I just havent been able to think straight. Its now been a week since it happened and my last exam was on friday. I had studied extremely hard for those exams - especially english - and I told the exams officer at my school that I didnt need to take the exam so that she wouldnt phone home and tell my parents - because them knowing I was being affected so badly would sadden them even more. I dont think I have achieved the conditional grades I needed, and this is too personal for me to tell my exams officer about. I dont trust her to keep this kind of information to herself, and believe that it may eventually reach the students - more importantly my younger brother who still goes there. Thats why I dont want to apply for special consideration, as well as the fact that it would only give me 5% more marks. I honestly dont know what to do right now. Could anybody help? Im thinking of contacting the uni (ucl) but they may just contact the school and let the wrong people know even though im a private candidate on ucas. im completely lost. im an active member of tsr and have been for a while, but dont want this visible to my friends on here.
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    Hello, prior to my exams beginning this summer a member of my immediate family had been suffering from depression, but we didnt think it was as bad as it turned out to be, until I caught the person whilst they were cutting their wrists. This happened after my second exam of the summer. Since then I have been extremely worried for them and I missed my A2 english exam which came a day after it happened, but I went to all the ones that came after it. I am on a gap year and was retaking these exams in the hope that I could better my grades and get into my preferred uni, but after what happened I just havent been able to think straight. Its now been a week since it happened and my last exam was on friday. I had studied extremely hard for those exams - especially english - and I told the exams officer at my school that I didnt need to take the exam so that she wouldnt phone home and tell my parents - because them knowing I was being affected so badly would sadden them even more. I dont think I have achieved the conditional grades I needed, and this is too personal for me to tell my exams officer about. I dont trust her to keep this kind of information to herself, and believe that it may eventually reach the students - more importantly my younger brother who still goes there. Thats why I dont want to apply for special consideration, as well as the fact that it would only give me 5% more marks. I honestly dont know what to do right now. Could anybody help? Im thinking of contacting the uni (ucl) but they may just contact the school and let the wrong people know even though im a private candidate on ucas. im completely lost. im an active member of tsr and have been for a while, but dont want this visible to my friends on here.
    You need to talk to someone, and unfortunately this is your exams officer. You can stress to her that this must be kept confidential, she has a duty of care and should not be telling others. Failing that, go to another teacher who you trust for advice.

    Realistically, if you get poor grades the uni will find out and will likely question why you haven't applied for special consideration. They may (and I stress, may) be willing to take your personal circumstances into consideration, but they will expect you to do what you can too. You should be writing a statement to let them know in advance, and make sure you get an email receipt that it has been received by the appropriate person.
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    The uni will want verification. If you email it will achieve nothing. Anybody can lie and unfortunately applicants do, so they need your school to tell them.

    If you can't tell your school the uni will not consider any extenuating circumstances.
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    I'd agree with the above that you should contact tour exam officer and apply for special consideration. You shouldnt feel uncomfy about the exam officer as they have a professional role to play, but maybe go bia a teacher you trust if you need the support. You need to get in any application asap as deadlines apply. I mean asap as some of them require claims within 7 days of the end of an exam series.

    For special consideration it depends on whether you claim for impairment to an exam you sat or whther you want consideration for one you didnt sit. In the case of a missed exam they can still award you a grade based on your performance in the other exams. It has to be through the school.

    It may help if you went though your school and get them to talk to UCL, but if you don't trust them, then do it direct. If you dont wnat UVL o contact the school tell them. but then they need independent verification as to whats happened.

    In terms of privacy, then I think they will treay it confidentially and these things happen.
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    People take confidentiality very seriously. If you want special consideration you HAVE to tell your exams officer.

    I know it can be difficult. I was an abused and neglected in my childhood home and ran away during my exams. I had to have one uncomfortable conversation with the relevant person at my school and everything went pretty smoothly exam wise.

    I would also recommend visiting your GP and asking for counselling.
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    1. Your exams officer will not let this get out if you make it clear it needs to be confidential. There is a lot of need for confidentiality in schools and people are careful as there can be serious consequences. It might be hard to talk to them but I would try and do so and give yourself the best possible chance.

    2. Your university would have no reason to contact your school. Your school can't verify anything for them and it will the university's decision whether or not they take it into account and if so how much, many universities won't give massive considerations but it might help you scrape in if you only just miss the grade... it's probably worth trying, this could also be done via email which would be less distressing than a face to face conversation.

    I know something like this is horrible and really traumatic... you have to reach out to people around you, your family would probably be more shocked if you weren't affected and they will want to support you.
 
 
 
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