I'm concerned about one of my best mates.
She gets attached to any guy who gives her the tiniest bit of attention - she thinks that if she kisses someone once then they're practically married, and once the guy is a **** to her she overreacts, cries loads and it takes her about 6 months to get over it. And I'm always the one who has to clean up the mess and look after her going on about it for ages.
This has happened 3 times in uni now. She's 21 but she still talks about the "relationship" she had with a boy at school when she was 15 (they held hands, kissed occasionally, no sexual aspect to it whatsoever, and they barely spent time together outside of school). She talks about this brief school romance, six years later, as if it was her ex-husband or something.
The first time, I thought fair enough, she's just a bit naive but she'll learn eventually. But now it's the third time she's been "hurt" by a guy who she kissed a few times this summer, even though she knows he has a girlfriend. I'm getting tired of having to look after her and I know she's not gonna stop talking about this six months down the line. I've tried being understanding about it, I've tried being tough, and nothing will work.
Can anyone give me advice on how to deal with her and what to say to her? I honestly feel like a mum looking after a teenage daughter. I know this sounds selfish, but I'm supposed to be living with her next year and not sure if I can handle this 24/7.
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Friend with attachment issues / overly emotional watch
- Thread Starter
- 29-06-2016 20:16
- Thread Starter
- 29-06-2016 21:28
- 26-07-2016 00:57
Good God, I'd absolutely flip if I were you. Honestly the best thing you can do for her is give her a massive reality check and tell her to get over herself, in the most loving way possible!