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    Ok, so I'm 25. When I was 20, I lived in Italy for a year and I had a horrible incident. In January, when it was snowing and freezing cold, I was walking home at about 9pm when this car pulled up to me and pulled his window down. He started shouting sexual stuff at me and followed me in his car. I kept running and he kept following me in his car. I was so scared and I had no idea what to do. Eventually, these teenagers came into sight and I legged it over to them. They ran over to the driver, told them what was happening and he drove away.
    I was pretty scared and upset a few days after. I was abroad and only 20!

    I'm 25 now and for some reason I keep having flashbacks about this following. I just wanted to talk to someone about it really. I mean I know I wasn't raped or anything but it keeps bugging me!
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    I'd imagine it would be quite a scary experience.

    Well, if you're looking for someone to talk to, I can try to help. I'm not sure how much I'll be able to do, but it could be worth a shot if you're interested
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    Ok, so I'm 25. When I was 20, I lived in Italy for a year and I had a horrible incident. In January, when it was snowing and freezing cold, I was walking home at about 9pm when this car pulled up to me and pulled his window down. He started shouting sexual stuff at me and followed me in his car. I kept running and he kept following me in his car. I was so scared and I had no idea what to do. Eventually, these teenagers came into sight and I legged it over to them. They ran over to the driver, told them what was happening and he drove away.
    I was pretty scared and upset a few days after. I was abroad and only 20!

    I'm 25 now and for some reason I keep having flashbacks about this following. I just wanted to talk to someone about it really. I mean I know I wasn't raped or anything but it keeps bugging me!
    I understand where you're coming from. You're just living your life in fear and life is just too short to live in fear. What you're mind is telling you is that it could happen again you're probably imagining the worst case scenario in your mind. Just take a deep breath and THINK what you have to do to move on i would say learn some self defence whether it's joining a class or learning online there are so many you tube videos on self defence for both men and women I would say at least try to learn some of these so if something does happen you will be confident you can defend yourself. Try avoiding going out at night unless necessary keep something with you e.g. a rape alarm etc. to make you feel safe. Hope you can gain your confidence back xx
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    You don't need to have been raped to experience trauma. PTSD simply outlines the reasonable belief of risk to life. This sounds like a terrifying experience.

    You're not over exaggerating. I think sometimes we feel "near misses" (apologies for the terminology) more keenly because our brain is more able to process the dangers. When rape or other event actually happens, our brain works hard to minimise it and often really overlooks the danger. Part of the recovery then is to recognise that danger. What you went through was traumatic and held high risk to life. If you're not in therapy, I would consider it. You can search for trauma specific services but you can find experienced therapists in other services.

    For example, my specialism is trauma but I work in a general counselling charity.
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    Self defence classes are good for feeling strong and empowered but they wouldn't necessarily prevent rape. More often, violence and fighting back results in further injuries. We have multiple survival mechanisms, not just fight - fight flight freeze and comply. All are valid. Whatever it takes to survive with the least risk to life.
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    Any "trauma" can trigger flashbacks. I think your situation (living abroad) heightened your feeling of vulnerability/insecurity.

    Are you currently going through any anxiety/insecurity? Are you or is someone close to you about to have another lifestyle change? If you are then the most significant past event will be brought to your attention wanting to be dealt with.

    The flashback may dissolve and come back during higher anxiety states. If it doesn't go, therapy is an option.

    http://www.clinicalhypnotherapy-card...ress-disorder/
 
 
 
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