There is a guy who I had always liked, and he said he liked me too but he didn't want a relationship because of moving abroad soon.
However he made it very clear that he fancied me and wanted to have sex, and so did I. He made clear it was just a casual thing and he didnt want me to get attached etc. and so I decided to give it a go; saying if there was a problem then i'd tell him.
Anyway, we did that a couple of times, and he seemed to enjoy it, and I found myself falling for him, to be honest. And he'd told me that he really liked me as well so..
But then the last time we did that ,he just couldn't 'get it up' (for want of a better expression) and he said he couldn't, so we just stayed in his bed talking for a couple of hours.
Afterwards, I talked to him and said that I didn't want to sleep with him anymore because I had feelings and I wanted more than just that, and he said that he'd noticed I was getting attached that time and he 'freaked out' and that's why he couldn't.
Then he said he didn't want us to do that again either..
do you think that sounds like a legit explanation from him? I respect him for not continuing to sleep with me when he knows I am getting attached, but I'm wondering if it's something to do with me and that he realised he wasn't attracted to me after all or something?
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- 01-07-2016 22:42
- 01-07-2016 22:43
Because before he was acting like he really wanted me and such and saying all kinds of things, then from that day onwards he just completely stopped being interested in me...
- 02-07-2016 00:36
- 02-07-2016 00:38
What else are you worried the reason might be?
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- 02-07-2016 00:39
maybe he doesnt find me very attractive after all, I didn't 'satisfy' him etc.?
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- 02-07-2016 00:41
He wanted a fwb and you changed it by becoming attached. he doesnt wnat a gf, just leave it at that. Find someone who does and maybe dont try fwb until you have thought it through next time. He doesnt want attachment, hence its an easy choice ti decude to end it.
- 02-07-2016 00:42
In all fairness, I doubt that would be the case. The idea of FWB is one that doesn't really rely on being at all picky about such things. Perhaps he was having a bit of an iffy night, or was simply nervous.
If he suspected that you were uncomfortable then he's likely to feel so too. Just don't be so quick to point the finger at yourself!
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- 02-07-2016 00:51
Well it's legit , he's just a big baby. Not willing to take responsibility for what he was doing. What else did you expect leaping into bed with someone you hardly know who has no feelings for you at all. Neither of you had thought it through. Just be pleased you're not expecting a baby and going to be tied to this man for the next 25 years - or more.