Okay im 21 , a virgin (somehow i have managed to stay celibate). I say somehow because i wasn't really religious before and had times where i was going to commit the big sin but for some reason i usually backed out or maybe by allahs power the final step or few steps didnt work out, ive kind of increased my iman and relationship with god more in the past few months (praying nearly all prayers and reading the beautiful Quran).
Anyway, i stopped masturbating around 4 or 5 months ago because it only brought me temporary pleasure and made me feel like a prick after. But im getting HORNY throughout the day, maybe its because im not doing anything much except chilling on youtube. Im not looking at porn or dirty pictures but somehow my private part is always excited through out the day. This only happens when im not at my family home in the city and away at my uni city. And also when im with my friends i dont really feel that horny probably because im occupied. The thing is i dont want to hang out with alot of the people i used to chill with becuase they all commit stupid sins from drug dealing etc. Thats why im by myself most of the time because i dont want to do dumb ****.
Ive thought about getting married and wouldnt mind it at all to be honest. But i dont want to get married to someone just because im horny. nowadays you will probably only get 1 wife (lol) and i would like her to be my soul mate, not some woman i rushed myself into marrying.
That being said; what guidance can any akhis offer. Jazakallah
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Could you not say "Preferably Males only"? You had to be butcher the Arabic word for Brother by using it incorrectly, hadn't you?
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Im not looking at porn or dirty pictures but somehow my private part is always excited through out the day. -
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Get a job and keep yourself occupied first.
Marriage costs money mate. Food costs money. Babies cost money. Money is important.
Im looking for a job/working myself to keep myself occupied.Last edited by Naveed-7; 02-07-2016 at 21:33. -
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Okay im 21 , a virgin (somehow i have managed to stay celibate). I say somehow because i wasn't really religious before and had times where i was going to commit the big sin but for some reason i usually backed out or maybe by allahs power the final step or few steps didnt work out, ive kind of increased my iman and relationship with god more in the past few months (praying nearly all prayers and reading the beautiful Quran).
Anyway, i stopped masturbating around 4 or 5 months ago because it only brought me temporary pleasure and made me feel like a prick after. But im getting HORNY throughout the day, maybe its because im not doing anything much except chilling on youtube. Im not looking at porn or dirty pictures but somehow my private part is always excited through out the day. This only happens when im not at my family home in the city and away at my uni city. And also when im with my friends i dont really feel that horny probably because im occupied. The thing is i dont want to hang out with alot of the people i used to chill with becuase they all commit stupid sins from drug dealing etc. Thats why im by myself most of the time because i dont want to do dumb ****.
Ive thought about getting married and wouldnt mind it at all to be honest. But i dont want to get married to someone just because im horny. nowadays you will probably only get 1 wife (lol) and i would like her to be my soul mate, not some woman i rushed myself into marrying.
That being said; what guidance can any akhis offer. Jazakallah -
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(Original post by Anonmous1)
Okay im 21 , a virgin (somehow i have managed to stay celibate). I say somehow because i wasn't really religious before and had times where i was going to commit the big sin but for some reason i usually backed out or maybe by allahs power the final step or few steps didnt work out, ive kind of increased my iman and relationship with god more in the past few months (praying nearly all prayers and reading the beautiful Quran).
Anyway, i stopped masturbating around 4 or 5 months ago because it only brought me temporary pleasure and made me feel like a prick after. But im getting HORNY throughout the day, maybe its because im not doing anything much except chilling on youtube. Im not looking at porn or dirty pictures but somehow my private part is always excited through out the day. This only happens when im not at my family home in the city and away at my uni city. And also when im with my friends i dont really feel that horny probably because im occupied. The thing is i dont want to hang out with alot of the people i used to chill with becuase they all commit stupid sins from drug dealing etc. Thats why im by myself most of the time because i dont want to do dumb ****.
Ive thought about getting married and wouldnt mind it at all to be honest. But i dont want to get married to someone just because im horny. nowadays you will probably only get 1 wife (lol) and i would like her to be my soul mate, not some woman i rushed myself into marrying.
That being said; what guidance can any akhis offer. Jazakallah -
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Assalaamu 'aleykum
Keep yourself busy whilst at uni and whilst alone - that's when Shaytaan would come at you the most. If you can sustain a wife, you can still get married and marry the right person even if one of your main concerns is avoiding zinah - it doesn't make your intentoons of marrying the right person any less valid.
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what was the main reason you stopped masturbation?
Close your eyes and imagine what it would be like if you walk in on yourself masturbating. Its shameful and un-natural in my opinion, (though very addicting). -
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masturbatuon is normal, we all do it and I do it normally 3 or 4 times a week. it's weird that you attribute your staying away from sex to allahs power but don't acknowledge that it must then be him who is giving you these unbearable urges too. why would he do that if he didn't want you to masturbate which btw is a totally normal and natural thing to do nothing sinful about it
And its society that gives me these urges, its repetitive sexual advertising, sexual lyrics in music and this whole explicitly acceptable society that ive become a part of its system that creates the reasoning for your opinion. When im with my family i dont get these urges. When im around a bunch of girls in halls who live alone in halls with me and i see them in mini skirts, jeggings and sundresses i get these urges.
Also i dont mind you but the title did say Muslim advice. Im not judging you but i get a strong opinion that your not a muslim. -
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Mate, masturbation is not normal, im sure you didnt come up with the idea of repetedly rubbing you meat in your hand until you ejaculate by nature, someone told you about it and it grew a seed in your mind. Wet dreams are natural.
And its society that gives me these urges, its repetitive sexual advertising, sexual lyrics in music and this whole explicitly acceptable society that ive become a part of its system that creates the reasoning for your opinion. When im with my family i dont get these urges. When im around a bunch of girls in halls who live alone in halls with me and i see them in mini skirts, jeggings and sundresses i get these urges.
Also i dont mind you but the title did say Muslim advice. Im not judging you but i get a strong opinion that your not a muslim.
are you trolling now ? it's not society that gives you these urges, they are inbuilt and biological. most people aren't sexually attracted to their family members so it's normal to not be horny round them and be horny round sexy girls. -
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Mate, masturbation is not normal, im sure you didnt come up with the idea of repetedly rubbing you meat in your hand until you ejaculate by nature, someone told you about it and it grew a seed in your mind. -
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My pet bird humps my foot until he ejaculates, go tell him it's not natural!
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bro, just imagine what a fool you look like. I know my **** wasnt created for a hand lol.
Close your eyes and imagine what it would be like if you walk in on yourself masturbating. Its shameful and un-natural in my opinion, (though very addicting).
(Original post by Anonmous1)
Mate, masturbation is not normal, im sure you didnt come up with the idea of repetedly rubbing you meat in your hand until you ejaculate by nature, someone told you about it and it grew a seed in your mind. Wet dreams are natural.
And its society that gives me these urges, its repetitive sexual advertising, sexual lyrics in music and this whole explicitly acceptable society that ive become a part of its system that creates the reasoning for your opinion. When im with my family i dont get these urges. When im around a bunch of girls in halls who live alone in halls with me and i see them in mini skirts, jeggings and sundresses i get these urges.
Also i dont mind you but the title did say Muslim advice. Im not judging you but i get a strong opinion that your not a muslim.
Think what you want, but masturbation is not un natural -
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bro just keep yourself busy and don't be like these fools ^ who justify watching porn and **** these fappers will never understand. I suggest you use r/nofap for advice
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Could you not say "Preferably Males only"? You had to be butcher the Arabic word for Brother by using it incorrectly, hadn't you? -
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what's it to you? he wants advice from a muslim and so he decided to use the word akhi. -
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Thread title kinda made me laugh lol.
Best tips I can give is do good deeds (nafl prayers, read quran), fasting especially and lowering your gaze.
Other than that, (some may disagree here) I've seen certain scholarly opinions that if you are close to committing zina then masturbation to prevent such an act is permitted. -
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Keep yourself busy. Use the energy for something else.
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it is sinful so try to stay away from temptation and occupy yourself until you have a proper relationship if you are a proper muslim , in any religion it's a sin;
Masturbation (for both men and women) is haraam (forbidden) in Islam based on the following evidence:
First from the Qur’aan:
Imam Shafi’i stated that masturbation is forbidden based on the following verses from the Qur’aan (interpretation of the meaning):
"And those who guard their chastity (i.e. private parts, from illegal sexual acts). Except from their wives or (the captives and slaves) that their right hands possess, - for them, they are free from blame. But whoever seeks beyond that, then those are the transgressors." 23.5-7 Here the verses are clear in forbidding all illegal sexual acts (including masturbation) except for the wives or that their right hand possess. And whoever seeks beyond that is the transgressor.
"And let those who find not the financial means for marriage keep themselves chaste, until Allah enriches them of His bounty." 24.33. This verse also clearly orders whoever does not have the financial means to marry to keep himself chaste and be patient in facing temptations (including masturbation) until Allah enriches them of His bounty.
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