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    Yesterdya i fount out that my grandmar died, shes been sick for a while now (unresponsive, not talking, not eating ect ect) we all knew it was time for her to board the flight to heaven but it seems so unreal now!!! I feel like i could have talked to her more or spent more time with her. I feel so bad knowing that i will never see her again :'(. How can i stop feeling like this?
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    (Original post by Talkand...Talk)
    Yesterdya i fount out that my grandmar died, shes been sick for a while now (unresponsive, not talking, not eating ect ect) we all knew it was time for her to board the flight to heaven but it seems so unreal now!!! I feel like i could have talked to her more or spent more time with her. I feel so bad knowing that i will never see her again :'(. How can i stop feeling like this?
    A few weeks ago my grandmother and grandfather both died within the same week; similar to yours, they had a few health issues.

    The bad thing is that I barely remember them. At their funeral people kept telling me how that my grandparents often talked about me and how proud they were, and that made me feel terrible seeing as I was never there.

    You just gotta hustle on little don.
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    (Original post by Davalla)
    A few weeks ago my grandmother and grandfather both died within the same week; similar to yours, they had a few health issues.

    The bad thing is that I barely remember them. At their funeral people kept telling me how that my grandparents often talked about me and how proud they were, and that made me feel terrible seeing as I was never there.

    You just gotta hustle on little don.
    but i took her for granted and i feel so sad. I dont think i can hustle on like u, not brave enough. But im thankful to be able of spend 12 yrs with her, every saturday. AND im very sorry fro your loss, i ddint think losing someone would be this painfull (my grandad died 4 yrs ago but i cant quite remmeber how i felt)
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    I'm sorry to hear that,
    I hope your alright,
    Anyway, it's not your fault, unfortunately her time came, and that could not have been stopped or delayed, but she's in a better place, and you will meet again.
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    (Original post by Reachin4TheStars)
    I'm sorry to hear that,
    I hope your alright,
    Anyway, it's not your fault, unfortunately her time came, and that could not have been stopped or delayed, but she's in a better place, and you will meet again.
    but that will be sooo long. And i already miss her too much. But thank you fro you condolences, aprecaited alot
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    (Original post by Talkand...Talk)
    Yesterdya i fount out that my grandmar died, shes been sick for a while now (unresponsive, not talking, not eating ect ect) we all knew it was time for her to board the flight to heaven but it seems so unreal now!!! I feel like i could have talked to her more or spent more time with her. I feel so bad knowing that i will never see her again :'(. How can i stop feeling like this?
    I m sorry for your loss. Dealing with grief takes time,it's okay to feel like this for a while (for some people it can take months/years to gain a sense of normalcy again, it's not something to be rush and you should let yourself feel it and not try bottling it up). I think the first close death is always the hardest for someone to deal with, for me it was an experience that changed me in many ways but its okay to change because of it, if its in a healthy way.
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    (Original post by claireestelle)
    I m sorry for your loss. Dealing with grief takes time,it's okay to feel like this for a while (for some people it can take months/years to gain a sense of normalcy again, it's not something to be rush and you should let yourself feel it and not try bottling it up). I think the first close death is always the hardest for someone to deal with, for me it was an experience that changed me in many ways but its okay to change because of it, if its in a healthy way.
    Yes i think it will take me a while, but i know everyone has to go through this and earlier sometimes the better, because then u get more adapted to it. THANK you so much
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    (Original post by Talkand...Talk)
    Yes i think it will take me a while, but i know everyone has to go through this and earlier sometimes the better, because then u get more adapted to it. THANK you so much
    Indeed its something everyone does go through at some point and you make a good point,i experienced death pretty young so now i know how to grief healthily. Glad to help
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    Have you ever seen ghosts or spirits? I have. Have you ever seen something so strange...floating above the bathroom door? I have.

    Now do you believe in angels or demons? I do.

    So I believe your grandma still exists. She's somewhere in another dimension. :-)

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    (Original post by Talkand...Talk)
    Yesterdya i fount out that my grandmar died, shes been sick for a while now (unresponsive, not talking, not eating ect ect) we all knew it was time for her to board the flight to heaven but it seems so unreal now!!! I feel like i could have talked to her more or spent more time with her. I feel so bad knowing that i will never see her again :'(. How can i stop feeling like this?
    Indeed it is normal that you mourn your grandmother as she passed away and death is certain and awaits all of us. Actually, when it comes to 'never seeing her again' this is a matter of faith as much as it is for science, as our very reality and experience is the subject of great dispute. Ultimately, we don't know. What is certain is that we will all indeed die, but what happens then is really intangible and possibly exceeds are cognitive capacity. Consider this video:

    Remember your grandma well and I would not try and fight the sadness. In a way it's beautiful sadness.
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    (Original post by InvestmentBankin)
    Indeed it is normal that you mourn your grandmother as she passed away and death is certain and awaits all of us. Actually, when it comes to 'never seeing her again' this is a matter of faith as much as it is for science, as our very reality and experience is the subject of great dispute. Ultimately, we don't know. What is certain is that we will all indeed die, but what happens then is really intangible and possibly exceeds are cognitive capacity. Consider this video:

    Remember your grandma well and I would not try and fight the sadness. In a way it's beautiful sadness.
    Thank you very much, ive learnt alot fom that vid. Im going to have faith. I WILL see her again but just in a very long time. Thats the thing that makes me feel like crying. I understand its beautiful, but i just want it to go. I want to move on but saying that i feel guitly becasue i dont wanna move on i want to HAVE her! Im so sad and ocnfused :'(. But thxs for advice
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    (Original post by Davalla)
    A few weeks ago my grandmother and grandfather both died within the same week; similar to yours, they had a few health issues.

    The bad thing is that I barely remember them. At their funeral people kept telling me how that my grandparents often talked about me and how proud they were, and that made me feel terrible seeing as I was never there.

    You just gotta hustle on little don.
    That's awful

    My grandparents raised me & my brother, so we we're like their children. They passed away 10 years ago but still hurts. We we're all very close. Every weekend went to stay there. All holidays etc talking every day on phone. Miss them everyday.

    Hate hearing stories like OP and then people say 'Oh I regret it' and **** like that. Too ****ing late isn't it. Live with the ****ing regret.

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    That's awful

    My grandparents raised me & my brother, so we we're like their children. They passed away 10 years ago but still hurts. We we're all very close. Every weekend went to stay there. All holidays etc talking every day on phone. Miss them everyday.

    Hate hearing stories like OP and then people say 'Oh I regret it' and **** like that. Too ****ing late isn't it. Live with the ****ing regret.

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    What kind of terrible advice is that?
    Terrible yes but feel strongly about it. Why regret it later when they don't make the effort when they are alive? He does everything else, visits mates, girlfriends/boyfriends and what not. But can't spare time for your own flesh & blood especially when they are elderly?! Pffft. No sympathy!

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    (Original post by SMEGGGY)
    That's awful

    My grandparents raised me & my brother, so we we're like their children. They passed away 10 years ago but still hurts. We we're all very close. Every weekend went to stay there. All holidays etc talking every day on phone. Miss them everyday.

    Hate hearing stories like OP and then people say 'Oh I regret it' and **** like that. Too ****ing late isn't it. Live with the ****ing regret.

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    It's a case of people not realizing what they have until they lose it, i generally live my life in the knowledge that anytime i see my loved ones could be the last time but that comes from not saying goodbye to my dad before leaving for school that day.
    But most people don't see time in that way (i've had quite strange looks when i tell people what i want as a funeral and in resuscitation situations for example), so although i get what you are saying everyone has regrets to live with, its not particular helpful to say to someone whose lost somebody what they should have done when they were alive really.
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    It's a case of people not realizing what they have until they lose it, i generally live my life in the knowledge that anytime i see my loved ones could be the last time but that comes from not saying goodbye to my dad before leaving for school that day.
    But most people don't see time in that way (i've had quite strange looks when i tell people what i want as a funeral and in resuscitation situations for example), so although i get what you are saying everyone has regrets to live with, its not particular helpful to say to someone whose lost somebody what they should have done when they were alive really.
    I'm just blunt, in real life and on forums. The truth hurts but it's better to be honest than dress it all up. Then perhaps the person can avoid it with other people they don't interact with.

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    (Original post by Talkand...Talk)
    Yesterdya i fount out that my grandmar died, shes been sick for a while now (unresponsive, not talking, not eating ect ect) we all knew it was time for her to board the flight to heaven but it seems so unreal now!!! I feel like i could have talked to her more or spent more time with her. I feel so bad knowing that i will never see her again :'(. How can i stop feeling like this?
    I'm really sorry to hear this - my grandad passed away recently so that's raw too.

    I've created a Bereavement Help and Support thread (http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/show....php?t=3562145), so check that out if you're in need of any help. Don't expect to stop feeling like it, allow yourself time to grieve properly to help in the long run :hugs:
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    I'm really sorry to hear this - my grandad passed away recently so that's raw too.

    I've created a Bereavement Help and Support thread (http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/show....php?t=3562145), so check that out if you're in need of any help. Don't expect to stop feeling like it, allow yourself time to grieve properly to help in the long run :hugs:
    Aww thx u so much. I feel a bit better bcz of u, made my day
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    Aww thx u so much. I feel a bit better bcz of u, made my day
    Really glad to hear that!
 
 
 
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