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    I've been with my girlfriend for 3 years now, we were great together, we've never cheated on each other or anything to break us up. But in January she decided to break it because we hadn't told our families and it just wasn't right. Since then I've still loved her, cared for her, tried to forget her but I found out whilst me and her weren't together she was talking to my brother who was her first 'crush' and that hurt me but she told me she was confused as of what she could've done and i believe that I honestly do but now we're back together, cleared the air but I just don't feel that spark anymore but then when I don't talk to her I miss her immensely..what do I do
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    (Original post by Aman7)
    it just wasn't right
    Why so?

    just don't feel that spark anymore
    On what level(s)?
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    I've been with my girlfriend for 3 years now, we were great together, we've never cheated on each other or anything to break us up. But in January she decided to break it because we hadn't told our families and it just wasn't right. Since then I've still loved her, cared for her, tried to forget her but I found out whilst me and her weren't together she was talking to my brother who was her first 'crush' and that hurt me but she told me she was confused as of what she could've done and i believe that I honestly do but now we're back together, cleared the air but I just don't feel that spark anymore but then when I don't talk to her I miss her immensely..what do I do
    Keeping it in the family...

    Do the family know about her and vice versa now? Are you both the same ethnicity? If so why the secret? If you don't have a spark now, end it. We all miss our exs from time to time. It'll fade in time.

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    Why so?

    On what level(s)?
    It's like now that she's apologised to me I just don't have that feeling with her anymore...I really care about her but I don't feel it anymore
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    Keeping it in the family...

    Do the family know about her and vice versa now? Are you both the same ethnicity? If so why the secret? If you don't have a spark now, end it. We all miss our exs from time to time. It'll fade in time.

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    My family and her family don't get along that's why, and yeah
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    (Original post by Aman7)
    I don't feel it anymore
    Sexually, emotionally, intellectually, or a combination of some of these?
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    (Original post by Foo.mp3)
    Sexually, emotionally, intellectually, or a combination of some of these?
    Sexually, emotionally, just the way she used to talk doesn't make me happy like it did. It may be because I've waited and waited for her and she's always been the one to hurt me and now I'm back with her but I just don't think I can do it anymore
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    (Original post by Aman7)
    Sexually, emotionally, just the way she used to talk doesn't make me happy like it did. It may be because I've waited and waited for her and she's always been the one to hurt me and now I'm back with her but I just don't think I can do it anymore
    Ok, thanks. Please read this back to yourself then ask yourself: if a friend told you these things, what would your advice be?
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    I would tell them to leave the relationship but is that what I want
 
 
 
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