I'm a second year student living with 4 people this coming year who have become catty since a disagreement about rent. We got on, but they aren't really my people, and I have struggled to find others worth socialising with as there was a lot of playground politics going on during the first year that I found to be silly and boring. It felt like I was back in school. I can see myself becoming a bit of loner in the coming year, however this doesn't bother me too much as I think this would be best for my studies. Still, there were some wobbly moments in my first year and I became quite lonely and depressed. My mental health is easily affected and I'm used to having a lot of friends back home to have as a form of escapism. I'm sure my house mates will lighten up, but my question is:
Have you dealt with a similar situation, and if so, how did you deal with being alone for so long?
I'm keeping a positive outlook, and plan to keep busy outside of work stuff with a maybe the rockclimbing society and the gym, but in case I go a bit wrong in the noggin' again, how would you recommend dealing with those dark, lonely thoughts?
Dealing with loneliness/ animosity among house mates Watch
- Thread Starter
- 06-07-2016 21:25
- 07-07-2016 09:30
Do you have any interests or hobbies? There must be a club or society that caters for that? I found the mountaineering club quite by accident at university. Turned out to be full of oddballs and misfits just like me. I discovered a passion for the mountains and made some of the best friends in my life, many of whom I am still in contact with 20 years on. I have found friends made through a shared interest are so much more valuable than random friends who come together through circumstance.
Good luck and don't be alone. There is no need. Why make life hard for yourself.