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    So, I want to estrange myself from my over controlling family because they mentally abuse me and I'm frankly, fed up of it. I'm going to university next year out of London (where I live) and because of this, I've started a part time job. I've calculated that by next year, I'd hopefully have about £4800 saved up (if I don't spend a penny of it) and then on top of that, I'll have my student loan/maintenance grant which is about £6434. I'm planning to get another part time job during university so is it possible to actually just survive on my own financially? During the summer I'll be renting a room or living with my mates and working alongside.
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    So, I want to estrange myself from my over controlling family because they mentally abuse me and I'm frankly, fed up of it. I'm going to university next year out of London (where I live) and because of this, I've started a part time job. I've calculated that by next year, I'd hopefully have about £4800 saved up (if I don't spend a penny of it) and then on top of that, I'll have my student loan/maintenance grant which is about £6434. I'm planning to get another part time job during university so is it possible to actually just survive on my own financially? During the summer I'll be renting a room or living with my mates and working alongside.
    Are you currently in year 12 then? I reckon you'll be alright financially during university, although I think your parents need to help out with all the income forms for student finance.

    Also feel free to inbox me if you need any advice! (:
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    Anyone else whose cut themselves off from parents at uni and got through? How did you get through university?
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    Are you currently in year 12 then? I reckon you'll be alright financially during university, although I think your parents need to help out with all the income forms for student finance.

    Also feel free to inbox me if you need any advice! (:
    Yeah I am. I know my parents do which is why I'm very weary. They want me to stay at home even though I don't love them and I hate the instability. Do you reckon when I get to university I should speak to the uni about my situation?
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    Yeah I am. I know my parents do which is why I'm very weary. They want me to stay at home even though I don't love them and I hate the instability. Do you reckon when I get to university I should speak to the uni about my situation?
    Yeah, I know loads of unis have advice centres where you can drop in and ask for financial/legal advice from specialists. Also, don't forget most unis give a bursary, so that could be extra money! I think you're making a good choice, definitely don't stay at home- it may even help your relationship with your parents as you won't constantly be under their control and hopefully they'll come to see you as independent
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    Yeah, I know loads of unis have advice centres where you can drop in and ask for financial/legal advice from specialists. Also, don't forget most unis give a bursary, so that could be extra money! I think you're making a good choice, definitely don't stay at home- it may even help your relationship with your parents as you won't constantly be under their control and hopefully they'll come to see you as independent
    No I don't want to ever have a relationship with my parents. They're just too horrible and I don't love them at all. :/

    My mother has actually said she would follow me wherever I go for uni too :/

    I was looking at getting grants from charities who help with estranged students too.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    No I don't want to ever have a relationship with my parents. They're just too horrible and I don't love them at all. :/

    My mother has actually said she would follow me wherever I go for uni too :/

    I was looking at getting grants from charities who help with estranged students too.
    Hi OP

    I have quite a lot of problems in my relationship with my own mother aswell, she has been physically abusive towards me in the past (including punching me and making my nose bleed), throwing a book at my head and even stabbing me with a pen. She was verbally and mentally abusive on top of that throughout my time at high school and was not helpful at all when I was getting bullied.

    I moved out and got a part time job and I've stayed out ever since so it's certainly possible. Although this is non London and I received the full loan/ grant allocation so my situation is a little bit different to yours
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    Yeah I am. I know my parents do which is why I'm very weary. They want me to stay at home even though I don't love them and I hate the instability. Do you reckon when I get to university I should speak to the uni about my situation?
    Definitely talk about your relationship with your parents at uni. There will be some sort of student counselling service available for you.
 
 
 
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